I E hoʻomanaʻo i kahi kanaka ʻōpio e hele mai nei i koʻu hale i nā makahiki i hala aku nei me nā pilikia male. Ua makemake ʻo ia i kaʻu ʻōlelo aʻo, a i ʻole ʻo ia kāna i ʻōlelo ai. “ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻolohe iaʻu!” ua hoʻopiʻi ʻo ia. “ʻAʻole anei ʻo ia e waiho mai iaʻu? ʻAʻole anei i ʻōlelo ka Palapala Hemolele, ʻo wau ke poʻo o kaʻu wahine? He aha kāna pilikia !? " Ua ʻike maikaʻi wau i ka pilina e ʻike ai ua kuhi hewa kāna ʻike iā ia iho. No laila pane aku wau, "ʻAe, he aha hou kā St. Paul i ʻōlelo ai?":
E nā kāne, aloha i kā ʻoukou wahine, e like me ke aloha o Kristo i ka hale pule, a hāʻawi iā ia iho iā ia e hoʻāno iā ia, e hoʻomaʻemaʻe iā ia i ka wai ʻauʻau me ka ʻōlelo, i hiki iā ia ke hōʻike iā ia iho i ka hale pule me ka nani, me ka ʻino ʻole a me ka ʻalalino a i ʻole kekahi mea like, i laʻa ia a kīnā ʻole. No laila (aloha pū nā kāne) i kā lākou wahine e like me ko lākou kino iho. ʻO ka mea aloha i kāna wahine aloha iā ia iho. (Efe 5: 25-28)
"No laila ʻike ʻoe," i hoʻomau aku ai, "ua kāhea ʻia ʻoe e hāʻawi i kou ola no kāu wahine. E lawelawe iā ia e like me kā Iesu lawelawe ʻana iā ia. E aloha a mōhai aku nona i ke ala a Iesu i aloha ai a mōhai aku ai nāu. Inā ʻoe e hana pēlā, ʻaʻohe paha ona pilikia i ka 'waiho' ʻana iā ʻoe. ” ʻĀ, huhū kēlā i ke kanaka ʻōpio nāna i lele koke i waho o ka hale. ʻO ka mea āna i makemake nui ai naʻu e hāʻawi iā ia i nā lako kaua e hoʻi i ka home a hoʻomau i ka mālama ʻana i kāna wahine e like me ka doormat. ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole kēia ka manaʻo o St. Paul i kēlā manawa a i kēia manawa, ʻokoʻa ka moʻomeheu. ʻO ka mea a Paulo e kuhikuhi nei i kahi pilina i hoʻokumu ʻia ma ka hiʻohiʻona a Kristo. Akā ua hoʻohālikelike ʻia kēlā hiʻohiʻona o ke kāne maoli ...
MALALO O KE HOA
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻeha nui loa o kēia kenekulia i hala aku nei i kūʻē i ke poʻo ʻuhane o ka home, ke kāne a me ka makuakāne. Hiki ke pili pono kēia mau ʻōlelo a Iesū i ka makuakāne:
E hahau nō wau i ke kahuhipa, ae hele liʻiliʻi hoʻi nā hipa o ka ʻohana. (Mat 26:31)
Ke lilo ka manaʻo o ke kumu a me ka ʻike maoli i ka makuakāne o ka home, ʻike mākou i ka ʻekemu a me ka helu helu he hopena hohonu kāna i ka ʻohana. A penei, wahi a Pope Benedict:
ʻO ka pilikia o ka makuakāne a mākou e noho nei i kēia lā he mea ia, ʻo ia paha ka mea nui, ke hoʻoweliweli nei i ke kanaka i kona lāhui. Pili ka hoʻopau ʻia o ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine i ka hoʻopau ʻia o kā mākou keikikāne a me kā mākou kaikamahine. —POPE BENEDICT XVI (Cardinal Ratzinger), Palermo, Malaki 15th, 2000
E like me kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai ma aneʻi, ua kākau wānana ʻo John John II II.
ʻO ka wā e hiki mai ana o ka honua a me ka Ekalesia ma waena o ka ʻohana. -Familiaris Consortio, ʻaʻole. 75
Hiki i kekahi ke ʻōlelo i kekahi kekelē, a laila, i ka wā e hiki mai ana o ka honua a me ka Ekalesia hele ma waena o ka makuakāne. No ka mea e like me ka hiki ʻole i ka Ekalesia ke ola me ka ʻole o ka ʻoihana kahuna Sacramental, pēlā nō, he mea nui ka makuakāne i kahi ʻohana olakino Akā pehea ka uuku o nā kāne e ʻike i kēia lā! No ka moʻomeheu kaulana i keʻokeʻo pinepine i ke kiʻi o ke kāne maoli. ʻO ka wahine wahine radical, a me nā lālā āpau, ua hoʻemi i nā kāne i nā lako pono i ka home; ua hoʻohuli ka moʻomeheu a me nā leʻaleʻa i ka makuakāne i mea hoʻomākeʻaka; a ua hoʻowahawaha ke aʻo hoʻomana liberal i ke ʻano o ke kuleana o ke kanaka ma ke ʻano he kumu hoʻohālikelike a alakaʻi alakaʻi i ka wāwae o Kristo, ke keiki hipa mōhai
E hāʻawi i hoʻokahi laʻana o ka mana o ka makuakāne, e nānā i ka hele ʻana i ka hale pule. Ua mālama ʻia kahi noiʻi ma Suedena i ka makahiki 1994 inā hele mau ka makua kāne a me ka makuahine i ka hale pule i ka manawa mau, 33 pākēneka o kā lāua mau keiki e pau i ka hele ʻana i ka hale pule maʻamau, a he 41 ka pākēneka e hele kū ʻole. I kēia manawa, inā kaulike ʻole ka makuakāne a maʻa mau ka makuahine, ʻo 3 wale nō ka pakeneka a laila lilo nā keiki i mau manawa maʻamau, ʻoiai ka 59% e lilo i mea kaulike ʻole. A eia ka mea kupaianaha:
He aha ka hana inā maʻamau ka makuakāne akā ʻaʻole kūleʻa ka makuahine a hana ʻole paha? ʻO ke keu, ʻo ka pākēneka o nā keiki e lilo i maʻamau e piʻi aʻe mai ka 33 pākēneka a i ka 38 pakeneka me ka makuahine kūpaʻa ʻole a i ka 44 pakeneka me ka hana ʻole [makuahine], me he mea lā e ulu ana ke kūpaʻa i ka kūpaʻa a ka makua kāne i ka likelike o ka laxity o ka makuahine, ka palaka, a me ka inaina . —Tʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i nā kāne a me ka hale pule: no ka mea nui o nā makuakāne i ka hele ʻana i ka hale pule na Robbie Low; ma muli o ke aʻo ʻana: "Ke ʻano heluna kanaka o nā hui ʻōlelo a me nā haipule ma Switzerland" na Werner Haug lāua ʻo Phillipe Warner o ka Federal Statistics Office, Neuchatel; Volume 2 o ka Haumāna Haʻawina, No. 31
He hopena ʻuhane koʻikoʻi ko nā makuakāne i kā lākou keiki pololei ma muli o kā lākou kūlana kūikawā i ke kaʻina o ka hana ʻana…
KE KAHUA MAKUA
Ke aʻo nei ka Catechism:
ʻO ka home Karistiano kahi e loaʻa ai i nā keiki ka hoʻolaha mua o ka manaʻoʻiʻo. No kēia kumu i kapa ʻia ai ka home ʻohana he "hale pule kūloko," kahi kaiāulu o ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka pule, kahi kula o nā pono kanaka a me ke aloha Karistiano. -Katesēsila o ka Ekalesia Kuro, ʻaʻole. 1666
No laila, hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia kahi kāne he kahuna ma kona hale ponoʻī. E like me kā St. Paul kākau ʻana:
No ka mea, ʻo ke kāne ke poʻo o kāna wahine, e like me Kristo ke poʻo o ka hale pule, ʻo ia nō ka mea nāna e hoʻōla i ke kino. (Efe 5:23)
He aha ka manaʻo o kēia? ʻĀ, e like me kaʻu moʻolelo e hōʻike ai ma luna, ʻike mākou ua ʻike ʻia kēia Palapala Hemolele i kāna hana ʻino i nā makahiki i hala. ʻ Verselelo hou ka paukū 24, "E like me ka hale pule i lalo o Karisto, no laila pono nā wahine i lalo o kā lākou kāne i nā mea āpau." No ka mea ke noho nei nā kāne i kā lākou hana Karistiano, e hāʻawi ana nā wahine i kahi mea i komo a alakaʻi iā lākou iā Kristo.
Ma ke ʻano he kāne a kāne, a laila, ua kāhea ʻia mākou i kahi alakaʻi alakaʻi uhane kū hoʻokahi. ʻOkoʻa ʻokoʻa nā wahine a me nā kāne. a i ke kaʻina ʻuhane. O lākou kākoʻo. A ʻo lākou kā mākou e like me nā hoʻoilina hoʻoilina o Kristo: [1]cf. Catechism o ka Ekalesia Katolika, n. 2203
Pēlā nō, e nā kāne e noho pū me kā ʻoukou mau wahine i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, e hoʻohanohano ana i ka wahine wahine nāwaliwali, ʻoiai he mau hoʻoilina hoʻoilina ko mākou no ka makana o ke ola, i ʻole e keakea ʻia kā ʻoukou pule. (1 Pet 3: 7)
Akā e hoʻomanaʻo i nā ʻōlelo a Karisto iā Paulo e "hoʻomākaukau ʻia ka mana i ka nāwaliwali." [2]1 Cor 12: 9 ʻO ia, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne e ʻae i ko lākou ikaika, kā lākou pohaku ʻo kā lākou wahine. A ke ʻike nei mākou i kahi mea pohihihi e hōʻike mai ana ma aneʻi: he makana hemolele kahi hōʻailona o ka male ʻana o Kristo i ka Ekalesia.
He mea pohihihi nui kēia, akā ʻōlelo wau e pili ana iā Kristo a me ka hale pule. (Efe 5:32)
Ua waiho ʻo Kristo i kona ola no kāna wahine wahine, akā ʻo ia hoʻomanko ka hale pule a hānai iā ia i kahi hopena hou "e ka ʻauʻau wai me ka ʻōlelo." ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, kuhikuhi ʻo ia i ka hale pule ma ke ʻano he pōhaku hoʻokumu a ʻo Petero ma ke ʻano he "pōhaku." Kupaianaha kēia mau ʻōlelo. No ka mea a Iesū e ʻōlelo nei makemake ʻo ia i ka Ekalesia e kūʻai pānaʻi pū me ia; e mahele i kona mana; e lilo maoli i "kino o Kristo", hoʻokahi me kona kino.
… E lilo lāua i ʻiʻo hoʻokahi. (Efe 5:31)
ʻO kā Kristo kumu aloha, kahi aloha pau ʻole i hōʻike ʻia i kahi manawaleʻa akua i ʻoi aku ma mua o nā hana a ke aloha i ka mōʻaukala o nā kānaka. Pēlā ke aloha i kāhea ʻia ai nā kāne i kā lākou wahine. Kāhea ʻia mākou e ʻauʻau i kā mākou wahine a me nā keiki i ka ʻōlelo a ke Akua 
i kū ai lākou i mua i ke alo o ke Akua "me ka kina ʻole a me ka wili." Hiki i kekahi ke ʻōlelo aʻe, e like me Kristo, hāʻawi mākou i nā "kī o ke aupuni" i kā mākou pōhaku, i kā mākou mau wahine, i hiki ai iā lākou ke hānai a hānai i ka home i kahi lewa hemolele a olakino hoʻi. E hoʻoikaika mākou iā lākou, ʻaʻole māhuahua ia.
Akā ʻaʻole kēia he manaʻo e lilo nā kāne i whimps - nā aka iki i ke kihi nāna i hoʻokau nā kuleana āpau i kā lākou wahine. Akā ʻo ia ka mea i hana ʻia i nā ʻohana he nui, keu hoʻi ma ka Honua Komohana. Ua maʻawe ka hana a nā kāne. ʻO ka manawa pinepine nā wahine e alakaʻi i ko lākou ʻohana i ka pule, i lawe i kā lākou keiki i ka hale pule, i lawelawe ma ke ʻano he kuhina nui, a ʻo ka mea nāna e mālama i ka pālū e like me ke kahakaha ʻana o ke kahuna i kāna mau hoʻoholo. A he kuleana ko kēia mau kuleana a pau o nā wahine i ka ʻohana a me ka hale pule inā ʻaʻole ia ma ka lilo o ke alakaʻi ʻuhane i hāʻawi ʻia e ke Akua no nā kāne. ʻO kahi mea a ka makuahine e hoʻomoe ai a hānai i kāna mau keiki i ka manaʻoʻiʻo, he mea kupaianaha ia; he mea ʻē aʻe nāna e hana i kēia me ke kākoʻo ʻole o kāna kāne, mea hōʻike, a me ka launa pū ʻana me kāna hana ʻole a hewa ʻole paha.
KA HANA A KE KANAKA
I loko o kahi hōʻailona mana ʻē aʻe, pono nui nā kāne male i kiʻi o ka Trinity Hemolele. Aloha nui ka Makua i ke Keiki a hānau kā lākou aloha i ke kanaka ʻekolu, ka ʻUhane Hemolele. Pēlā pū kekahi, aloha nui ke kāne i kāna wahine, a me ka wahine i kāna kāne, i hoʻohua ai ko lākou aloha i ke kanaka ʻekolu: he keiki. Kāhea ʻia kahi kāne a wahine, e lilo i mau hiʻohiʻona o ka Trinity Hemolele kekahi i kekahi, a me kā lāua mau keiki i kā lākou ʻōlelo a me kā lākou hana. E ʻike nā keiki a me nā wahine i ko lākou makuakāne i ke ʻano o ka Makua Lani; ʻike lākou i ko lākou makuahine i ke ʻano o ke Keiki a me ka Halepule makuahine, ʻo kona kino ia. Ma kēia ala, e hiki ai i nā keiki ke loaʻa ma o ko lākou mau mākua nā lokomaikaʻi he nui o ka ʻUhane Hemolele, e like me kā mākou loaʻa ʻana i nā lokomaikaʻi o ka hoʻānana ma o ka ʻOihana Kahuna Hemolele a me ka Halepule makuahine.
ʻO kaʻohana Kalikiano kahi hui o nā kānaka, kahi hōʻailona a me ke kiʻi o ka pilina o ka Makua a me ke Keiki i ka ʻUhane Hemolele. -Catechism o ka Ekalesia Katolika, n. 2205
Pehea ke ʻano o ka makuakāne a me ka hānai? Minamina i kēia lā, ʻaʻohe paha kahi hiʻohiʻona o ka makuakāne e pono ke nānā ʻia
. ʻO ke kāne i kēia lā, me he mea lā, he kaulike kūpono ia o ka palakala, ʻalekohola, a me nā pāʻani kīwī kīwī mau me ke kuko (a i ʻole ka nui) o ke kuko i kīloi ʻia no ke ana pono. Tragically i loko o ka hale pule, ua nalowale ke alakaʻi o ka ʻuhane mai ka polina me ke kahuna pule hopohopo e hōʻaʻano i ke kūlana quo, e paipai i kā lākou keiki ʻuhane i ka hemolele, a e haʻi aku i ka ʻeuanelio i hoʻoliʻiliʻi ʻole ʻia, a ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi, e ola ia i kahi ala e hoʻonohonoho ai laʻana. Akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻohe a mākou hiʻohiʻona e hele ai. o Iesu ke waiho nei i ko mākou kumu nui a maikaʻi loa o ke ʻano kāne. Palupalu ʻo ia, akā kūpaʻa; akahai, akā hoʻopū ʻole; mahalo i nā wahine, akā ʻoiaʻiʻo; a me kāna poʻe keiki ʻuhane, hāʻawi ʻo ia i nā mea āpau. I ka holoi ʻana i ko lākou mau wāwae, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia.
No laila, inā wau, ka haku a me ke kumu, i holoi i ko ʻoukou mau wāwae, pono ʻoukou e holoi kekahi i nā wāwae o kekahi. Ua hāʻawi wau iā ʻoe i kahi hoʻohālikelike e ukali ai, e like me kaʻu i hana aku ai iā ʻoe, ʻo ia pū kekahi e hana ai. (Ioane 13: 14-15)
He aha ka manaʻo o kēia? E haʻi wau i kaʻu kākau aʻe, i nā mea āpau mai ka pule ʻohana, ke aʻo, a me ka nohona kāne. No ka mea inā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻomaka i ke poʻo ʻuhane i kā mākou kuleana; inā mālama ʻole mākou i ka ʻauʻau ʻana i kā mākou wahine a me nā keiki i loko o ka Word; inā no ka palaualelo a makaʻu ʻole paha ʻaʻole mākou e lawe i ke kuleana a me ka hanohano no mākou ma ke ʻano he kāne ... a laila e hoʻomau kēia pōʻaiapuni o ka lawehala e "hoʻoweliweli nei i ke kanaka i kona lāhui", a me ka "hoʻopau ʻana o kā mākou keiki kāne a kaikamahine" a e hele ka mea kiʻekiʻe loa, ʻaʻole wale i ko mākou mau ʻohana, akā i ko mākou mau kaiaulu, ke waiho nei i ka wā e hiki mai ana o ka honua i ka pili.
ʻO ka mea a ke Akua e kāhea nei iā mākou he kāne i kēia lā, ʻaʻole ia he mea liʻiliʻi. E koi ʻoi iā mākou i ka mōhai nui inā pono mākou e ola maoli i kā mākou hana Karistiano. Akā ʻaʻohe a mākou mea e makaʻu ai, no ka mea, ʻo ke alakaʻi a me ka mea hoʻopihapiha o ko mākou hilinaʻi, ʻo Iesū - ke kāne o nā kānaka āpau - e lilo i mea kōkua, alakaʻi, a ikaika hoʻi no mākou. A i kona wā i hāʻawi aku ai i kona ola, pēlā nō, lawe hou ʻia ia i ke ola mau loa ...
Heluhelu Hou:
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