DZIMWE Shamwari dzangu dzinogona kunge dzakabatanidzwa mumararamiro eungochani, kana kuti maari izvozvi. Ini handivade zvishoma (kunyange ini ndisingagone kubvumirana neimwe sarudzo yavo.) Kune mumwe nemumwe wavo akaitwawo nemufananidzo waMwari.
Asi uyu mufananidzo unogona kukuvadzwa. Muchokwadi, zvinokuvara mukati medu tese mumatanho akasiyana uye mhedzisiro. Pasina kusarudzika, nyaya dzandakanzwa pamusoro pemakore kubva kushamwari dzangu uye kubva kune vamwe vakambobatwa muhupenyu hwevane ngochani vane tambo yakafanana. ronda rakadzama remubereki. Kazhinji kazhinji, chimwe chinhu chakakosha muhukama navo baba atadza. Iye angave akavasiya, akange asipo, achituka, kana kungova aisave aripo mumusha. Dzimwe nguva, izvi zvinosanganiswa naamai vanotonga, kana amai vane matambudziko akakomba avo senge doro, zvinodhaka, kana zvimwe zvinhu.
Ndakafungidzira kwemakore kuti ronda revabereki ndechimwe chezvinhu zvikuru mukumisikidza kuda kuita ungochani. Ongororo ichangoburwa zvino inotsigira zvakanyanya izvi.
Chidzidzo ichi chakashandisa huwandu hwevanhu-vanopfuura mamirioni maviri maDanes ari pakati pemakore gumi nemasere nemakumi mana nepfumbamwe.Denmark ndiyo yaive nyika yekutanga kunyoresa zviri pamutemo "kuroora ngochani", uye inozivikanwa nekushivirira kwayowo mararamire akasarudzika. Saka nekudaro, ungochani munyika iyoyo hauna zvinyadzo. Heano zvimwe zvezvakawanikwa:
• Varume vanoroora ngochani vanowanzove vakarerwa mumhuri ine hukama husina kugadzikana hwevabereki - kunyanya, vanababa vasipo kana vasingazivikanwe kana vabereki vakarambana.
• Huwandu hwewanano yeungochani hwakakwidziridzwa pakati pevakadzi vakasangana nekufa kwaamai panguva yekuyaruka, vakadzi vane nguva pfupi yekuroora kwevabereki, uye vakadzi vane nguva refu yekugara pamwe chete naamai-vasipo nababa.
• Varume nevakadzi vane "madzibaba asingazivikanwe" vaive nemikana yekuroora munhu webonde pane avo vezera ravo vane madzibaba anozivikanwa.
• Varume vakaona kufa kwevabereki panguva yehudiki kana kuyaruka vaive nemitengo yakaderera yekuroora kwevakomana kana vakadzi pane vezera ravo vane vabereki vaive vapenyu pazera ravo rekuzvarwa gumi nemasere.
• Pfupi nguva yemuchato wevabereki, iyo yepamusoro yaive mukana wekuroora kweungochani.
• Varume vane vabereki vakarambana vasati vasvitsa makore matanhatu ekuberekwa vaive nemakumi matatu nemapfumbamwe muzana mukana wekuroora ngochani pane vezera ravo kubva kumichato yevabereki yakasimba.
Referance: "Zvevacheche Mhuri Correlates yeHeterosexual uye Ungochani Imichato: Chizvarwa Cohort Chidzidzo cheMamiriyoni maviri eDanes,”NaMorten Frisch naAnders Hviid; Archives of Sexual Behavior, Gumiguru 13, 2006. Kuti utarise zvizere zviwanikwa, enda ku: http://www.narth.com/docs/influencing.html
CONCLUSIONS
Vanyori vekudzidza vakapedzisa vachiti, "Chero zvipi zvinhu zvinosanganisa zvishuwo zvebonde zvemunhu uye sarudzo yemuchato, yedu yekuverenga vanhu inoratidza kuti kudyidzana kwevabereki kwakakosha."
Izvi zvinotsanangura muchikamu nei vazhinji varume nevakadzi vane zvinokwezva zvebonde-rimwe avo vakatsvaga kurapwa vachikwanisa kusiya "mararamiro ehunhu" uye kurarama mararamiro akajairika ehunhu hwepabonde. Kupora kweronda revabereki yakabvumira munhu kuti awanezve zvavari muna Kristu uye nezvaAkavasika kuti vave. Zvakadaro, kune vamwe, nzira yekurapa ndeyakareba uye yakaoma, uye nekudaro Chechi inotikurudzira kuti tigamuchire ngochani ne "rukudzo, tsitsi, uye nehanya".
Uye zvakadaro, Chechi inokurudzira rudo rwakafanana kune ani zvake ari kunetseka nekuchiva izvo zvinopesana nemutemo waMwari wetsika. Nhasi kune denda rekudhakwa, kupindwa muropa nekuona zvinonyadzisira, uye zvimwe zvinonetsa pfungwa izvo zviri kuparadza mhuri. Chechi haisi kusarudzira ngochani, asi iri kusvika kwatiri tese, nekuti tese tiri vatadzi, tese tichisangana nehumwe hutapwa. Kana paine chero chinhu, Chechi yeKaturike yakaratidza iyo kugadzikana muchokwadi, isingachinji mukati memazana emakore. Nekuti chokwadi hachigone kuve chokwadi kana chiri chokwadi nhasi, asi mangwana manyepo.
Ndozvinoita kuti zvive zvevamwe, iyo zvakaoma chokwadi.
Chechi… inoda kuramba ichikwidza izwi rayo mukudzivirira vanhu, kunyangwe kana marongero eAmerica uye ruzhinji rwemaonero eruzhinji rwakaenda kune yakapesana. Chokwadi, zvirokwazvo, chinokwevera simba kubva pachayo uye kwete kubva kuhuwandu hwemvumo iyo inomutsa. —PAPA BENEDICT XVI, Vatican, Kurume 20, 2006
