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WE baphila kumaxesha ayingozi. Kodwa bambalwa abayiqondayo loo nto. Le nto ndithetha ngayo ayisosisongelo sobunqolobi, utshintsho lwemozulu, okanye imfazwe yenyukliya, kodwa yinto echulwe ngakumbi nefihlakeleyo. Kukuqhubela phambili kotshaba esele lufumene umhlaba kumakhaya amaninzi nasezintliziyweni kwaye lukwazi ukwenza intshabalalo eyoyikekayo njengoko isasazeka kwihlabathi lonke:
noise.
Ndithetha ngengxolo yasemoyeni. Ingxolo engxolayo emphefumlweni, eva iintliziyo, ithi yakuba nje ingene, ifihle ilizwi likaThixo, isibethe isazela, kwaye imfamekisa amehlo ukuze abone ubunyani. Yenye yeentshaba zethu eziyingozi zexesha lethu kuba, ngelixa imfazwe nobundlobongela benzakalisa umzimba, ingxolo ingumbulali womphefumlo. Kwaye umphefumlo ovale ilizwi likaThixo usemngciphekweni wokungaze uphinde umve ngonaphakade.
INGXOLO
Olu tshaba belusoloko lucele, kodwa mhlawumbi aluzange lube ngaphezulu kunamhlanje. Umpostile uSt. John ukulumkisa oko ingxolo Isimbonono somoya womchasi kristu:
Musani ukulithanda ihlabathi okanye izinto zehlabathi. Ukuba kukho othi alithande ihlabathi, uthando lukaYise alukho kuye. Yonke into esehlabathini, inkanuko yenyama, ukuthanda amehlo, nokuphila ngokuqhayisa, akuveli kuBawo, kodwa kuphuma ehlabathini. Nangona kunjalo ihlabathi kunye nomtsalane walo uyadlula. Ke yena owenza ukuthanda kukaThixo uhleli ngonaphakade. Bantwana, lilixa lokugqibela eli; kwaye njengokuba nevayo ukuba umchasi-Kristu uyeza, ngoku sele bebaninzi abachasi-Kristu. (1 Yohane 2: 15-18)
Inkanuko yenyama, ukuhendwa ngamehlo, ubomi bokuzithemba. Ezi ziindlela ezithi iziphathamandla kunye namagunya akhokele ukuqhushumba kwengxolo kuluntu olungalindelekanga.
UMSINDO WENKANZO
Umntu akanakusefa i-intanethi, ahambe kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya, okanye athenge nje igrosari ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa yingxolo yenkanuko. Amadoda, ngaphezu kwabasetyhini, banokuchaphazeleka koku kuba kukho impendulo enamandla yekhemikhali emadodeni. Yingxolo eyoyikekayo, kuba ayitsali amehlo kuphela, kodwa itsalela nomzimba womntu endleleni yawo. Ukude ucebise namhlanje ukuba umfazi onxibe isiqingatha akathozamanga okanye akafanelekanga uya kutsala isiphithiphithi ukuba asisiso isigculelo. Kuye kwamkeleka kuluntu, kwaye kwiminyaka emncinci nangaphantsi, ukwenza isondo kunye nokugxeka umzimba. Ayiseseyiyo inqanawa yokuhambisa, ngokuthozama kunye nothando, inyaniso yokuba ungubani ngokwenene umntu, kodwa iye yaba sisandisi-lizwi esivakalisa umyalezo ogqwethekileyo: olo kuzaliseka luza ekugqibeleni luvela kwisini kunye nokwabelana ngesondo, kunoMdali. Le ngxolo iyodwa, ngoku isasazwa ngemifanekiso eqingqiweyo nolwimi phantse kuzo zonke iinkalo zoluntu lwale mihla, yenza okungakumbi ukutshabalalisa imiphefumlo kunokuba mhlawumbi nayiphi na enye.
INGXOLO YOBUGCISA
Ngokukodwa kumazwe aseNtshona, ingxolo yokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo—ukuhendwa kwezinto ezintsha—iye yafikelela kwinqanaba elibi, ukanti bambalwa abaxhathisayo. Ii-Ipads, ii-ipods, ii-ibooks, ii-iphone, iifashions, izicwangciso zomhlala-phantsi…. Nkqu nezihloko ngokwazo zityhila into yengozi enokubakho esemva kwesidingo sokuthuthuzelwa, ukukhululeka kunye nolonwabo lobuqu. Konke malunga no "Mna", hayi umntakwethu osweleyo. Ukuthunyelwa kwemveliso kwilizwe lesithathu 
amazwe (ahlala ezisa ukungabikho kokusesikweni ngokwawo ngemivuzo elusizi) azise itsunami yexabiso eliphantsi leempahla, elandelwa ngamaza wentengiso angayekiyo azibeka, hayi abamelwane, ngaphezulu kwe-totem yezinto eziphambili.
Kodwa ingxolo iye yathabath’ unyawo ngendlela eyahlukileyo nefihlakeleyo ngakumbi kumhla wethu. Itekhnoloji ye-intanethi kunye ne-wireless iqhubeka inika uluhlu olubanzi lombala wenkcazo ephezulu, iindaba, intlebendwane, iifoto, iividiyo, iimpahla, iinkonzo-konke kumzuzwana ohlukeneyo. Yeyona ngqungquthela igqibeleleyo ye-glitz kunye nobukhazikhazi bokugcina imiphefumlo ithandeka-kwaye amaxesha amaninzi izithulu kwindlala kunye nokunxanelwa kwemiphefumlo yabo kwabo bagqithisayo, kuThixo.
Asinakukhanyela ukuba utshintsho olukhawulezayo olwenzeka kwihlabathi lethu lukwabonisa iimpawu eziphazamisayo zokuqhekeka kunye nokuhlehla kumntu ngamnye. Ukusetyenziswa okwandisiweyo konxibelelwano lwe-elektroniki kwezinye iimeko kubangele ngokumangalisayo ukubekwa wedwa okukhulu… —UPOPE BENEDICT XVI, intetho eCaweni yaseSt. Joseph, ngoAprili 8, 2008, Yorkville, New York; I-Catholic News Agency
INGXOLO YOKUZIPHATHA
UJohn St. ulumkisa ngesihendo sokuba “nekratshi ngobomi.” Oku akuphelelanga nje ekufuneni ukuba sisityebi okanye udumo. Namhlanje, ithathe isilingo esinobuqili ngakumbi, kwakhona, ngeteknoloji. “Ezentlalo 
uthungelwano”, ngelixa ihlala isebenzela ukunxibelelana nabahlobo kunye nosapho lwakudala, iphinda ifumane ubuntu obutsha. Ngeenkonzo zonxibelelwano ezifana ne-Facebook okanye i-Twitter, umkhwa kukubeka yonke ingcinga kunye nesenzo somntu ngaphandle ukuze ihlabathi libone, ukukhuthaza umkhwa okhulayo we-narcissism (ukuzifunxa). Oku ngenene kuchasene ngqo nelifa lomoya elityebileyo labaNgcwele apho iincoko ezingento kunye nemfeketho kufuneka ziphetshwe, njengoko behlakulela umoya wehlabathi nokungakhathaleli.
ISIKHOKELO SENTLIZIYO
Ewe, yonke le ngxolo akufuneki ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo njengobubi ngokungqongqo. Umzimba womntu kunye nokwabelana ngesondo zizipho ezivela kuThixo, hayi isithintelo esihlazo okanye esimdaka. Izinto eziphathekayo azilunganga okanye zimbi, zinjalo nje… de sizibeke esibingelelweni seentliziyo zethu sizenza izithixo. Kwaye i-intanethi ingasetyenziselwa okuhle.
Kwindlu yaseNazarete nakubulungiseleli bukaYesu, kwakukho 
njalo ingxolo yangasemva yehlabathi. UYesu wada wangena ‘emhadini weengonyama,’ esidla nabaqokeleli berhafu namahenyukazi. Kodwa wakwenza oko kuba Wayesoloko exhasa ukugcinwa kwentliziyo. UPaul Paul wabhala wathi,
Musani ke ukuthatha isimilo sabantu beli phakade, kodwa iingqondo zenu maziguquke zihlaziyeke (Roma 12: 2)
Ukugcinwa kwentliziyo kuthetha ukuba andizinzanga kwizinto zehlabathi, ekuhambisaneni neendlela zalo zokungahloneli Thixo, kodwa kubukumkani, iindlela zikaThixo. Oko kuthetha ukuphinda ndiyifumane intsingiselo yobomi kwaye ndilungelelanise iinjongo zam kuyo…
… Masisuse yonke imithwalo kunye nesono esisincamatheleyo sizingise ekubalekeni ugqatso oluphambi kwethu ngelixa sigcine amehlo ethu ethe ntsho kuYesu, inkokeli nomphelelisi wokholo. (Heb 12: 1-2)
Kwizifungo zethu zobhaptizo, sithembisa “ukugatya ubukhazikhazi bobubi, size singavumi ukoyiswa sisono.” Ukugcinwa kwentliziyo kuthetha ukuphepha inyathelo lokuqala elibulalayo: ukufunxwa kubuhle bobubi, obuthi, ukuba sithatha isithiyelo, bukhokhelele ekubeni silawulwe bubo.
… Wonke umntu owenza isono ulikhoboka lesono. (UYohane 8:34)
UYesu wahamba phakathi kwabantu abanesono, kodwa wayigcina intliziyo Yakhe ingenabala ngokuqhubeka efuna kuqala intando kaYise. Wahamba enyanisweni yokuba abafazi babengengobantu bafunwayo, kodwa babeyimbonakaliso yomfanekiso wakhe; enyanisweni, izinto eziphathekayo zifanele zisetyenziselwe uzuko lukaThixo nokulungelwa kwabanye; yaye ngokuba mncinane, ukuthobeka, nokuzifihla, ukululama nokuthantamisa kwentliziyo, uYesu wawaphepha amandla nembeko yehlabathi abanye ababeya kumnika yona.
UKUGCINA UKUGCINWA KWEZIMVO
KuMthetho Wezohlwaya ongokwesithethe xa kuthandazwa kwiSivumo somthendeleko, ubani ugqiba kwelokuba 'angabi sasona aze asiphephe isihlandlo sokwenza isono.' Ukugcinwa kwentliziyo kuthetha ukuphepha kungekuphela nje isono ngokwaso, kodwa loo migibe eyaziwayo eya kundibangela ukuba ndiwele esonweni. “Yenza akukho malungiselelo enyama,” watsho uSt I-Tiger kwi-Cage.) Omnye umhlobo wam uthi kudala engatyi iilekese okanye utywala. Wathi: “Ndingumntu okhobokisayo. "Ukuba nditya iqebengwana elinye, ndifuna ibhegi yonke." Ukunyaniseka okuhlaziyayo. Indoda ephephayo nakwithuba elikufuphi lesono—kwaye unokuyibona inkululeko emehlweni ayo.
inkanuko
Kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo, omnye umsebenzi otshatileyo wayebawela abafazi ababedlula ngendlela. Ibona ukungathabathi nxaxheba kwam, yarhorhozela yathi, “Ubani usenokujonga kwimenyu ngaphandle kokuba aodole!” Kodwa uYesu wathetha into eyahlukileyo:
… Wonke umntu ojonga umfazi ngenkanuko sele ekrexezile naye entliziyweni yakhe. (Mat 5:28)
Kwinkcubeko yethu yamanyala, umntu angazigcina njani ekuweleni kwisono sokukrexeza ngamehlo akhe? Impendulo kukubeka imenyu kude 
zizonke. Enye into, abafazi abazinto, izinto zokuthengisa. Ziyimbonakaliso entle yoMdali oNgcwele: ubuni babo, obubonakaliswa njengesitya sembewu enik’ ubomi, bungumfanekiso weBandla, elisisambuku seLizwi likaThixo elinika ubomi. Ngaloo ndlela, kwanesinxibo esingandilisekanga okanye inkangeleko yesini ingumgibe; kukuthambeka okumtyibilizi okukhokelela ekufuneni ngakumbi nangakumbi. Into efunekayo, ke, kukugcina ukugcinwa kwamehlo:
Isibane somzimba liliso. Xa sukuba iliso lakho ngoko lingenakumbi, umzimba wakho uphela wokhanyiseleka. kodwa xa sukuba iliso lakho likhohlakele, umzimba wakho uphela woba sebumnyameni. (Mat 6: 22-23)
Iliso “libi” ukuba siyalivumela ukuba liphazanyiswe “bubuhle bobubi”: ukuba siyalivumela ukuba lizulazule egumbini, ukuba sijonga amaqweqwe emagazini, imifanekiso ye-intanethi esecaleni, okanye ukubukela iimuvi okanye imiboniso bhanyabhanya engafanelekanga. .
Wasuse amehlo akho kumfazi obukekayo; Musa ukukhangela ubuhle bomfazi womnye; ngenxa yobuhle bomfazi abaninzi bayatshabalala; ngokuba inkanuko yakhe ivutha njengomlilo. (Funda iSiraki 9:8.)
Ngoko asingombandela wokuphepha nje ukubukela amanyala, kodwa zonke iintlobo zokuziphatha okubi. Kuthetha-kwamanye amadoda afunda oku-ukuguqulwa okupheleleyo kwengqondo malunga nendlela abafazi ababonwa ngayo kunye nendlela esizibona ngayo-izinto ezingaqhelekanga esizithethelelayo ukuba, ngokwenene, zisirhintyele, kwaye zisitsalele kwintlupheko yesono.
Ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo
Umntu angabhala incwadi ethetha ngentlupheko. Kodwa uSt. Paul mhlawumbi uyishwankathela ngcono:
Ukuba sinesixhaso nesambatho, masaneliswe zezo zinto. Abo banga bangaba zizityebi, beyela ekuhendweni, nasesibatheni, nasezinkanukweni ezininzi ezibubudenge ezenzakalisayo, ezibaphosayo ekonakaleni, nasekutshabalaleni. ( 1 Timoti 6:8-9 )
Siphulukana nokugcinwa kwentliziyo ngokusoloko sithenga izinto ezingcono, ngento elandelayo elungileyo. 
Omnye weMiyalelo kukunganqweneli izinto zommelwane wam. Isizathu, u Yesu walumkisa, sesokuba umntu akanako ukwahlula intliziyo yakhe phakathi koThixo nobutyebi.
Akukho mntu unako ukukhonza nkosi mbini. Uya kuyithiya le, athande leya; athi mhlawumbi abambelele kule ayidele leya; (Mat 6: 24)
Ukugcina intliziyo kuthetha ukufumana, ubukhulu becala, into esiyifumanayo imfuneko Kunokuba sithini ufuna, hayi ukuziqwebela kodwa yabelana nabanye, ngakumbi amahlwempu.
Ubutyebi obugqithisileyo owabugcina kwaye wavuma ukuba babole xa ubufanele ubanike amalizo kwabasweleyo, iingubo ezigqwesileyo owawunazo kwaye wakhetha ukuzibona zityiwa ngamanundu kunokunxiba amahlwempu, negolide nesilivere Ukhethe ukubona ubuxoki ungasebenzi endaweni yokuchitha ukutya kwabasweleyo, zonke ezi zinto, ndizakukunika ubungqina ngoMhla woMgwebo. —St. URobert Bellarmine, Ubulumko beNgcwele, Jill Haakadels, iphe. 166
Ubungqina
Ukugcinwa kwentliziyo kukwathetha ukujonga amazwi ethu, ukuba nawo sigcine iilwimi zethu. Kuba ulwimi lunamandla okwakha okanye awokudiliza, awokubambisa okanye awokukhulula. Ngokufuthi, sisebenzisa ulwimi ngenxa yekratshi, sisithi (okanye sichwetheza) le okanye leya ngethemba lokuzenza sibonakale sibaluleke ngakumbi kunathi, okanye ukukholisa abanye, ukuze sizuze inkoliseko yabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, sikhupha nje udonga lwamagama ukuze sizonwabise ngencoko engenzi nto.
Kukho igama kumoya wamaKatolika elibizwa ngokuthi “inkumbulo.” Kuthetha nje ukukhumbula ukuba ndihlala ndiphambi koThixo, kwaye usoloko eyinjongo yam nokuzalisekisa yonke iminqweno yam. Kuthetha ukuqonda ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe kukutya kwam, nokuba, njengomkhonzi waKhe, ndibizelwe ukuba ndimlandele kumendo wothando. Ukukhumbula ke, kuthetha ukuba “ndizihlanganisa” xa ndiphulukene nokugcinwa kwentliziyo yam, ndithembele kwinceba yakhe noxolelo lwakhe, kwaye kwakhona ndizinikele ekumthandeni nasekuMkhonzeni umzuzu wangoku ngentliziyo yam yonke, umphefumlo, ingqondo, kunye namandla.
Xa kufikelelwa kwiiwebhsayithi zokuncokola, kufuneka silumke. Ngaba kukuthobeka ukuncamathisela imifanekiso yam ephulula amampunge am? Xa “ndibhalela” abanye, ngaba ndithetha into eyimfuneko okanye hayi? Ngaba ndikhuthaza intlebendwane okanye ndimosha ixesha labanye?
Ndithi kuni, ngomhla womgwebo abantu baya kuziphendulela ngelizwi ngalinye elingakhathaliyo abalithethayo. (Mat. 12:36)
Cinga ngentliziyo yakho njengeziko. Umlomo wakho ngumnyango. Ngalo lonke ixesha uvula umnyango, uvumela ubushushu ukuba buphume. Xa uluvala ucango, ugcina uzikhumbuza ebukhweni bukaThixo, umlilo wothando lwaKhe oluNgcwele uya kukhula ushushu ngakumbi, ukuze, xa ixesha lilungile, amazwi akho angasebenza ukwakha, ukukhulula, kunye nokwenza lula ukuphiliswa kwabanye- zifudumele abanye ngothando lukaThixo. Ngaloo maxesha, nangona sithetha, kuba sikwilizwi loThando, sisebenza ukutshisa imililo ngaphakathi. Kungenjalo, umphefumlo wethu, nowabanye, uyabanda xa sigcina ucango luvuliwe kwincoko engenantsingiselo okanye engaphakathi.
Ukuziphatha okubi okanye nakuphi na ukungcola okanye ukubawa makungakhe kukhankanywe kwaukukhankanywa phakathi kwenu, njengoko kufanelekile phakathi kwabo bangcwele, kungabikho manyala okanye intetho yobuyatha okanye engamanyala, engafanelekanga, kodwa endaweni yoko, ngumbulelo. (Efese 5: 3-4)
Abaphambukeli nabaphambukeli
Ukugcina ugcino lwentliziyo kuvakala kuvakala kwaye kuchasene nenkcubeko. Siphila kwihlabathi elikhuthaza abantu ukuba bavavanye intaphane yezenzo zesondo kunye neendlela zokuphila, bazityabeke kuyo yonke iYouTube, bafune ukuba “yiSithixo” esiculayo okanye esidanisayo, kwaye “banyamezele” nantoni na naye nabani na (ngaphandle kwamaKhatholika aqheliselayo) . Ekwala olu hlobo lwengxolo, uYesu wathi siya kubonakala singaqhelekanga emehlweni ehlabathi; nokuba baya kusitshutshisa, bahlekise, basikhuphele ngaphandle, basithiye ngenxa yokuba ukukhanya kwabakholwayo kuya kubohlwaya ubumnyama kwabanye.
Kuba bonke abenza izinto ezimbi bayaluthiya ukhanyiso, bangezi elukhanyisweni, ukuze imisebenzi yabo ingabonakaliswa. (UYohane 3:20)
Ukugcina ugcino lwentliziyo, ke ngoko, asiyondlela yakudala yakudala, kodwa yindlela engaguqukiyo, eyinyani, nemxinwa ekhokelela eZulwini. Kuphela nje ukuba bambalwa abakulungeleyo ukuthabatha, ukuxhathisa ingxolo ukuze babe nokuliva ilizwi likaThixo elikhokelela kubomi obungunaphakade.
Kuba apho bukhona ubutyebi benu, yoba lapho nentliziyo yenu. Ngenani ngesango elimxinwa; ngokuba libanzi isango, iphangalele nendlela, esa entshabalalweni; baninzi ke abangena ngalo. Hayi indlela elimxinwa ngayo isango, icuthene nendlela, esa ebomini! Kwaye abo bayifumanayo bambalwa. ( Mateyu 6:21; 7:13-14 )
Ukuthanda izinto zehlabathi lolunye uhlobo lwentaka, olubambisa umphefumlo luthintele ukuba lubhabhe luye kuThixo. —Augustine weMvubu, Ubulumko beNgcwele, Jill Haakadels, iphe. 164
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