UJoseph wami, nguTianna (Mallett) Williams
UKUTHUTHUKISWA KWE-ST. UJOSEFA
UMFAZI WENTOMBI EBUSISIWE UMARIYA
AS ubaba osemncane, ngifunde i-akhawunti ebandayo eminyakeni eminingi edlule engingakaze ngiyikhohlwe:
Cabanga ngempilo yamadoda amabili. Omunye wabo, uMax Jukes, wayehlala eNew York. Wayengakholelwa kuKristu noma anikeze ukuqeqeshwa kobuKristu ezinganeni zakhe. Wenqabile ukuyisa izingane zakhe esontweni, noma ngabe zicela ukuya. Wayenezizukulwane ezingu-1026 — ezingu-300 zazo zagqunywa ejele isikhathi esiyiminyaka engu-13, ezingaba ngu-190 zaziyizifebe zomphakathi, kwathi ezingu-680 zangeniswa njengezidakwa. Amalungu omndeni wakhe abiza uMbuso ngaphezu kwamaRandi ayizi-420,000 — kuze kube manje — futhi bebengakaze benze mnikelo omuhle emphakathini.
UJonathan Edwards wayehlala eMbusweni ofanayo ngasikhathi sinye. Wayeyithanda iNkosi futhi ebona ukuthi izingane zakhe zazisesontweni njalo ngeSonto. Wasebenzela iNkosi ngokusemandleni akhe. Ezizukulwaneni zakhe ezingama-929, ezingama-430 zazingongqongqoshe, ezingama-86 zaba ngoprofesa baseyunivesithi, abangu-13 baba omongameli bamanyuvesi, abangu-75 babhala izincwadi ezakhayo, abangu-7 bakhethwa kwi-US Congress, kanti omunye wakhonza njengePhini Likamongameli wase-United States. Umndeni wakhe awukaze ukhokhele uMbuso isenti elilodwa, kodwa ube nesandla esikhulu ngokungenakulinganiswa.
Zibuze… uma umndeni wami waqala nami, yisiphi isithelo esingahle sithele eminyakeni engama-200 kusuka manje? -Incwadi Encane Yokuzinikela Yobaba (Hlonipha Izincwadi), k. 91
Yize isiko lethu lizama kakhulu ukuqeda ubudoda nokuqeda ubaba, amacebo kaNkulunkulu emndenini wesintu awusoze wabhujiswa, noma ngabe "umndeni" ungadlula enkingeni enkulu. Kunemigomo engokwemvelo nengokomoya esebenza engeke yashaywa indiva njengomthetho wamandla adonsela phansi. Akuyona kuphela indima yamadoda hhayi ingasasebenzi, ibaluleke kakhulu kunakuqala. Iqiniso ukuthi amadodana akho namadodakazi akho ukubukela wena. Unkosikazi wakho elinde kwakho. Futhi umhlaba unjalo ngethemba kwakho. Yini abayifunayo?
Real amadoda.
AMADODA OKWANGEMPELA
Lawo magama amabili enza izithombe eziningi, futhi iningi lawo liyasilela: imisipha, iqinile, inesibindi, 
uzimisele, akesabi, njll. Futhi uzobona phakathi kwentsha namuhla isithombe esinamaphutha kakhulu "sendoda yangempela": sexy, techy, umnikazi wamathoyizi amakhulu, ukusetshenziswa kaningi kwegama elithi "f", virile, ambitious, njll. Empeleni, ngenkathi izinhlangano eziningi zobuKrestu zenze okuningi ukusiza amadoda ukuba abe ngamadoda futhi, kungaba khona nesilingo sokusebenzisa isixuku sibe uhlobo lweqhawe, isosha elingumKristu, i-go-take-on-the world. Ngenkathi ukuvikela impilo neqiniso kuhle, nalokhu kwehluleka ukuba yindoda yangempela.
Esikhundleni salokho, uJesu wembula ubukhulu bendoda ngobusuku bangaphambi kokukhathazeka kwakhe:
Wavuka esidlweni sakusihlwa wakhumula izingubo zakhe zangaphandle. Wathatha ithawula walibhinca okhalweni. Wabe esethela amanzi emcengezini, waqala ukugeza izinyawo zabafundi, wazesula ngethawula okhalweni lwakhe. Ngakho-ke, lapho esegeze izinyawo zabo, wembatha izingubo zakhe, wahlala futhi etafuleni, wathi kubo: , “...Ngakho-ke, uma mina, njengomphathi nomfundisi, ngigeze izinyawo zenu, bekufanele nigezane izinyawo. Ngikunike isibonelo okufanele usilandele, ukuze njengoba ngenze kuwe, nawe wenze kanjalo. ” (Johane 13: 4-15)
Ekuqaleni, isithombe singahle sibonakale sikhipha, sicasule. Impela kwamqeda amandla uPeter. Kepha uma kunjalo 
qala ukuphila lokho uJesu akumodelile, khona-ke usheshe uqaphele amandla aluhlaza nokuzimisela okudingekayo ukuze Beka impilo yomuntu phansi…. Ukubeka phansi amathuluzi akho wokushintsha inabukeni. Ukuvala ikhompyutha ukuze ufunde indaba ezinganeni zakho. Ukumisa isikhashana umdlalo ukulungisa umpompi ophukile. Ukubeka eceleni umsebenzi wakho wokwenza isaladi. Ukuvala umlomo wakho uma uthukuthele. Ukukhipha udoti ngaphandle kokubuzwa. Ukufoshela iqhwa noma ukugunda utshani ngaphandle kokukhononda. Ukuxolisa uma wazi ukuthi usephutheni. Ukungathuki lapho ucasukile. Ukusiza ngezitsha. Ukuba mnene nokuxolela lapho umkakho engekho. Ukuya ku-Confession kaningi. Futhi ukuguqa ngamadolo uchithe isikhathi neNkosi nsuku zonke.
UJesu uchaze isithombe sika a real umuntu unomphela:
Uyazi ukuthi labo abaziwa njengababusi phezu kwabezizwe bazenza izingqongqo phezu kwabo, futhi abakhulu babo benza igunya labo phezu kwabo lizwakale. Kepha akunjalo phakathi kwenu. Kunalokho, noma ngubani ofisa ukuba mkhulu phakathi kwenu uzoba yisisebenzi senu; (Mathewu 10: 42-43)
Wabe ebeka phansi esiphambanweni futhi wakufela.
Nasi isihluthulelo sokuthi kungani eyakhe ukuphila yensiza ibingeyona eyokuthile okwe doormat ebhuliwe:
Akekho ongithathela [impilo yami], kodwa ngikunikela ngedwa. Nginamandla okukudela, namandla okukuthabatha futhi. (Johane 10:18)
UJesu akazange aphoqelelwe ukukhonza: Wakhetha ukuba yisigqila sokwembula uthando lweqiniso.
Yize ayesesimweni sikaNkulunkulu, akazange abheke ukulingana noNkulunkulu njengento okufanele ayibambe. Kunalokho wazidela, wathatha isimo sesigqila… (Phil 2: 8-9)
Noma ungaba ngumpristi wekhaya lakho nenhloko yomkakho, lingisa ukuthobeka likaJesu. Zithulule, futhi uzozithola; yiba isigqila, futhi uzoba indoda; dela impilo yakho ngenxa yabanye, uzophinde uyithole futhi, njengoba kufanele: yenza kabusha ngomfanekiso kaNkulunkulu.
Ngoba umfanekiso waKhe futhi kuwukubonakaliswa kwe indoda yangempela.
EPILOGUE
Yize singenawo amagama aqoshiwe kaSt. Joseph emBhalweni, kunesikhathi esibalulekile empilweni yakhe lapho eba yindoda yangempela. Kwakuwusuku amaphupho akhe achithwa ngalo — lapho ezwa ukuthi uMary ukhulelwe.
Ingelosi yavela kuye ephusheni futhi yembula indlela yakhe yesikhathi esizayo: ukudela impilo yakhe ngenxa yomkakhe kanye neNgane yakhe. Kwasho ushintsho olunzulu ezinhlelweni. Kwakusho ukuthotshiswa okuthile. Kwasho ukuthembela okuphelele kuDivine 
Ukuhlinzeka.
Lapho uJosefa evuka, wenza njengoba ingelosi yeNkosi yayimyalile futhi wathatha umkakhe wamngenisa endlini yakhe. (Math 1:24)
Uma ufisa ukuba yindoda yangempela, ungagcini nje ngokulingisa uJesu kodwa thatha uMariya naye, okungukuthi, yakho inhliziyo. Vumela umama wakhe akufundise, futhi akuholele endleleni eya ebunyeni noNkulunkulu. UJoseph wenza. UJesu wakwenza. Kanjalo noSt.
“Nangu unyoko.” Kusukela kulelo hora umfundi wamngenisa endlini yakhe. (Johane 19:27)
Zingcwelisele lo Mfazi, njengoba benza, futhi uzokusiza ngokweqiniso ukuthi ube ngumuntu kaNkulunkulu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma abonwa njengofanelwe ngokwanele ukukhulisa iNdodana kaNkulunkulu, nakanjani ufanele thina bantu.
UJoseph… uJohane oNgcwele… uMariya, uMama kaNkulunkulu, sikhulekele.
KUFUNDWA OKUFUNDILE
UmPristi Ekhaya Lami Ngempela - Ingxenye I & Ingxenye II
Uma ungathanda ukondla izidingo zomndeni wethu,
mane uchofoze inkinobho engezansi bese ufaka amagama
"Okomndeni" esigabeni sokuphawula.
Akubusise futhi ngiyabonga!
Ukuhamba noMark in The Manje iZwi,
chofoza isibhengezo esingezansi ukuze ubhalise.
I-imeyili yakho ngeke yabiwe nanoma ngubani.
