Mtendere sikumangokhala kuti kulibe nkhondo…
Mtendere ndi "bata lamtendere."
-Katekisma wa Mpingo wa Katolika, N. 2304
NGATI tsopano, ngakhale nthawi imazungulira mwachangu komanso mwachangu komanso mayendedwe amoyo amafuna zochulukirapo; ngakhale tsopano pamene mikangano pakati pa okwatirana ndi mabanja ikuchuluka; ngakhale pakadali pano zokambirana zachikondi pakati pa anthu zikusokonekera ndipo mayiko ali kunkhondo ... ngakhale pano tingapeze mtendere weniweni.
Koma tiyenera kumvetsetsa kaye kuti “mtendere weniweni” nchiyani. Wophunzira zaumulungu waku France, Fr. Léonce de Grandmaison (d. 1927), adalongosola motere:
Mtendere womwe dzikoli limatipatsa umakhala osavutika komanso zosangalatsa zosiyanasiyana. Mtendere womwe Yesu walonjeza ndikupatsa abwenzi ake ndi sitampu ina. Sikuti pakakhala mavuto ndi nkhawa koma pakakhala kusamvana kwamkati, mu umodzi wa mzimu wathu polumikizana ndi Mulungu, kwa ife eni, ndi kwa ena. -Ife ndi Mzimu Woyera: Timalankhula ndi a Laymen, Zolemba Zauzimu za Léonce de Grandmaison (Ofalitsa a Fides); onani. Kukula, Januwale 2018, tsa. 293
Ndi mkati matenda zomwe zimalanda moyo wamtendere weniweni. Ndipo matendawa ndi chipatso chosasunthika nditero ndi osadziletsa kulakalaka. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mayiko olemera kwambiri padziko lapansi amakhala ndi anthu osasangalala komanso osakhazikika: ambiri ali ndi zonse, komabe alibe kalikonse. Mtendere weniweni suwerengedwa ndi zomwe muli nazo, koma ndi zomwe muli nazo.
Komanso si nkhani yachidule osati ndi zinthu. Monga momwe St. John wa pa Mtanda akufotokozera, "kusowa kumeneku sikungathamangitse moyo ngati ukukulakalakabe zinthu zonsezi." M'malo mwake, ndi nkhani yachinyengo kapena chovulaza chilakolako cha moyo ndi zokhutiritsa zomwe zimawasiya osakhutira komanso osakhazikika.
Popeza zinthu zadziko lapansi sizingalowe mu moyo, sizomwe zili zowakhumudwitsa; M'malo mwake, ndi chifuniro komanso chilakolako chokhala mkati mwanu chomwe chimayambitsa kuwonongeka mukakhala pazinthu izi. -Kukwera kwa Phiri la Karimeli, Buku Loyamba, Chaputala 4, n. 4; Ntchito Zosonkhanitsidwa za St. John wa pa Mtanda, p. 123; Kutanthauzidwa ndi Kieran Kavanaugh ndi Otilio Redriguez
Koma ngati wina ali ndi zinthu izi, bwanji ndiye? Funso, m'malo mwake, ndichifukwa chiyani muli nawo poyamba? Kodi mumamwa makapu angapo a khofi tsiku lililonse kuti mudzuke, kapena kuti mudzilimbikitse? Kodi mumadya kuti mukhale ndi moyo, kapena mumakhala ndi moyo kuti mudye? Kodi mumakondana ndi mnzanu m'njira yolimbikitsira mgonero kapena yomwe imangotenga kukhutitsidwa? Mulungu saweruza zomwe adalenga komanso samatsutsa zosangalatsa. Zomwe Mulungu waletsa mwa mawonekedwe amalamulo ndikusintha zosangalatsa kapena zolengedwa kukhala mulungu, kukhala fano laling'ono.
Usakhale nayo milungu ina koma Ine ndekha. Usadzipangire iwe wekha fano losema, kapena chifaniziro chilichonse cha zinthu za m'thambo la kumwamba, kapena za m'dziko lapansi, kapena za m'madzi a pansi pa dziko; usazipembedzere izo, kapena kuzitumikira. (Ekisodo 20: 3-4)
Ambuye amene adatilenga mwachikondi amadziwa kuti Iye yekha ndiye amakwaniritsa zokhumba zonse. Chilichonse chomwe adachipanga, mwabwino kwambiri, ndi chinyezimiro chabe cha ubwino Wake womwe umalozera ku Gwero. Chifukwa chake kulakalaka chinthu kapena cholengedwa china kuphonya cholinga ndikukhala kapolo wawo.
Mwa ufulu Khristu anatimasula; chifukwa chake chirimikani ndipo musabwererenso ku goli la ukapolo. (Agal. 5: 1)
Ndi zokhumba zathu, komanso kusakhazikika komwe zimatulutsa, zomwe zimabera mtendere weniweni.
… Ufulu sungakhale mumtima wolamulidwa ndi zikhumbo, mumtima wa kapolo. Imakhala mumtima womasulidwa, mumtima wamwana. —St. John waku Mtanda, Ibid. n. 6, p. 126
Ngati mukufunadi (ndipo ndani satero?) “Mtendere wakupambana chidziŵitso chonse,” ndikofunikira kuphwanya mafano awa, kuwapangitsa kugonjera chifuniro chanu - osati njira ina. Izi ndi zomwe Yesu amatanthauza pamene akunena kuti:
… Aliyense wa inu sataya zonse ali nazo sangakhale wophunzira wanga. (Luka 14:33)
Yesu akufuna, chifukwa akufuna kuti tikhale ndi moyo wosangalala. -POPE JOHN PAUL II, Uthenga wa Tsiku la Achinyamata Padziko Lonse wa 2005, Vatican City, Ogasiti 27, 2004, Zenit.org
Kulowa m'kudzikana kumeneku kuli ngati "usiku wakuda", atero a John wa pa Mtanda, chifukwa munthu amachotsa mphamvu ya "kuwala" kwakukhudza, kulawa, kuwona, ndi zina zambiri. God Catherine Doherty, "ndiye chopinga chomwe chimakhalapo pakati pa ine ndi Mulungu kwamuyaya." [1]Poustinia, p. 142 Chifukwa chake, kudzikana wekha kuli ngati kulowa mu usiku komwe sikumakhalanso mphamvu zomwe zimatsogolera wina ndi mphuno, koma tsopano, chikhulupiriro cha munthu m'Mawu a Mulungu. Mu "usiku wokhulupilira" uno, mzimu uyenera kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro chonga cha mwana chakuti Mulungu adzakhala wokhutira ndi moyo wake-monga momwe thupi limafuulira mosiyana. Koma posinthana ndi kuunika kowoneka bwino kwa zolengedwa, wina akukonzekeretsa mtima kwa Kuwala kosazindikirika kwa Khristu, yemwe ndiye mpumulo wathu weniweni ndi mtendere.
Idzani kuno kwa Ine nonsenu akulema ndi akuthodwa, ndipo Ine ndidzakupumulitsani inu. Senzani goli langa ndipo phunzirani kwa ine, chifukwa ndine wofatsa ndi wodzichepetsa mtima; ndipo mudzapeza mpumulo wa inu nokha. Pakuti goli langa liri lofewa, ndi katundu wanga ali wopepuka. (Mat. 11: 28-30)
Poyamba, izi zimawoneka ngati zosatheka kwenikweni. “Ndimakonda vinyo wanga! Ndimakonda chakudya changa! Ndimakonda ndudu zanga! Ndimakonda kugonana kwanga! Ndimakonda makanema anga!…. ” Timatsutsa chifukwa timaopa - monga munthu wachuma uja amene adachoka kwa Yesu ali wachisoni chifukwa choopa kutaya chuma chake. Koma Catherine adalemba kuti zosiyana ndizowona kwa amene amasiya wosokonezeka zilakolako:
Kumene kuli kenosis [kudziletsa] kulibe mantha. -Mtumiki wa Mulungu Catherine de Hueck Doherty, Poustinia, p. 143
Palibe mantha chifukwa mzimu sulolanso zilakolako zake kumuchepetsa kukhala kapolo womvetsa chisoni. Mwadzidzidzi, akumva ulemu womwe sunakhalepo chifukwa moyo umakhetsa zonyenga zonsezo komanso mabodza onse omwe adakhala nawo. M'malo mwa mantha, m'malo mwake, chikondi-ngati mbewu zoyambirira za chikondi chenicheni. Pakuti moona, kodi sikulakalaka zosangalatsa nthawi zonse, ngati sichoncho osalamulirika kulakalaka, gwero lenileni la kusasangalala kwathu?
Kodi nkhondo zimachokera kuti ndipo mikangano pakati panu imachokera kuti? Kodi sizichokera kuzilakalaka zanu zomwe zimapanga nkhondo mkati mwa mamembala anu? (Yakobo 4: 1)
Sitikhutitsidwa ndi zolakalaka zathu ndendende chifukwa zomwe zili zofunikira sizingakhutiritse zomwe zili zauzimu. M'malo mwake, “Chakudya changa,” Yesu anati, “Kuchita chifuniro cha amene anandituma.” [2]John 4: 34 Kukhala “kapolo” wa Khristu, kutenga goli lomvera Mawu Ake, ndiko kuyenda panjira ya ufulu weniweni.
Mtolo wina uliwonse umakuponderezani ndi kukuponderezani, koma Khristu amakuchotsani. Katundu wina aliyense amalemera, koma Khristu amakupatsani mapiko. Ngati mungachotse mapiko a mbalame, mungaoneke ngati mukulemera, koma mukachepetsa kwambiri, mumamangirira kwambiri pansi. Ndi yomwe ili pansi, ndipo mumafuna kuti muchepetse kulemera kwake; bwezerani kulemera kwake kwa mapiko ake ndipo muwona m'mene ikuuluka. —St. Augustine muzinenero zina Maulaliki, N. 126
Pamene Yesu akukufunsani kuti "mutenge mtanda wanu", "kondanani wina ndi mnzake", "kulekana ndi zonse", zikuwoneka kuti akusenzetsani katundu amene angakusokonezeni chisangalalo. Koma ndikumumvera iye komwe "Mudzapeza mpumulo wanu."
Kuti mupeza mtendere weniweni.
Inu nonse amene mumayenda mozunzika, osautsika, ndi olemedwa ndi zokhumba zanu ndi zilakolako zanu, chokani kwa iwo, bwerani kwa ine ndipo ndidzakutsitsimutsani; ndipo mupeza zotsalira za miyoyo yanu zomwe zokhumba zidzakuchotsani. —St. John waku Mtanda, Ibid. Ch. 7, n.4, tsa. 134
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