I kumbukirani mnyamata wina yemwe adabwera kunyumba kwanga zaka zingapo zapitazo ndi mavuto am'banja. Adafuna upangiri wanga, kapena adati. “Samvera ine!” adadandaula. “Kodi akuyenera kuti andigonjera? Kodi Malemba sanena kuti ine ndine mutu wa mkazi wanga? Vuto lake ndi chiyani !? ” Ndinkadziwa chibwenzicho mokwanira kuti ndidziwe kuti amadziona mozama. Kotero ine ndinayankha, "Chabwino, kodi St. Paul akunena chiyani kachiwiri?":
Amuna inu, kondani akazi anu, monganso Khristu adakonda Mpingo nadzipereka yekha chifukwa cha iye kuti amuyeretse, kumuyeretsa pomusambitsa ndi madzi ndi mawu, kuti akawonetsere kwa iye mpingo muulemerero, wopanda banga kapena khwinya kapena chilichonse chinthu choterocho, kuti akhale woyera ndi wopanda chirema. Momwemonso amuna azikonda akazi awo a iwo okha monga ngati matupi a iwo okha. Wokonda mkazi wa iye yekha, adzikonda yekha. (Aefeso 5: 25-28)
"Ndiye ukuona," ndinapitiliza, "ukuitanidwa kudzipereka moyo wako chifukwa cha mkazi wako. Kumutumikira monga momwe Yesu adamtumikirira. Kumukonda ndi kudzipereka chifukwa chake Yesu amakukondani ndi kudzipereka chifukwa cha inu. Mukachita izi, mwina sangakhale ndi vuto 'logonjera' kwa inu. ” Izi, zidakwiyitsa mnyamatayo yemwe nthawi yomweyo adatuluka m'nyumba. Zomwe amafunira ndikuti ndimupatse zipolopolo kuti apite kunyumba ndikupitiliza kuchitira mkazi wake ngati chopondera. Ayi, izi sizomwe St Paul amatanthauza nthawiyo kapena tsopano, kusiyana kwachikhalidwe pambali. Chimene Paulo anali kutanthauza chinali ubale wokhazikika pa chitsanzo cha Khristu. Koma mtundu wa umuna weniweni udasinthidwa ...
MOKHUDZIDWA
Chimodzi mwazomwe zakhala zikuukira m'zaka zapitazi kwambiri kwakhala motsutsana ndi mutu wa banja, mwamuna ndi tate. Mawu awa a Yesu atha kugwiranso ntchito kukhala tate:
Ndidzakantha mbusa, ndipo nkhosa zidzabalalika. (Mat. 26:31)
Abambo akunyumba ataya tanthauzo komanso kudziwika kwenikweni, timadziwa zonse zomwe zachitika komanso zowerengera kuti zimakhudza banja. Ndipo chifukwa chake, Papa Benedict akuti:
Vuto laubambo lomwe tikukhala lero ndi chinthu, mwina chofunikira kwambiri, chowopseza munthu mu umunthu wake. Kutha kwaubambo ndi umayi kumalumikizidwa ndi kutha kwa kukhala kwathu ana amuna ndi akazi. -Papa BENEDICT XVI (Kadinala Ratzinger), Palermo, pa Marichi 15, 2000
Monga ndanenera kale, Wodala John Paul Wachiwiri analemba mwaulosi,
Tsogolo la dziko lapansi komanso la Mpingo limadutsa m'banja. -Odziwika a Consortio, N. 75
Wina amathanso kunena pamlingo winawake, kuti, tsogolo la dziko lapansi ndi Mpingo kudutsa bambo. Pakuti monga Mpingo sungakhalire popanda unsembe wa sacramenti, koteronso, bambo ndi gawo lofunikira la banja labwino. Koma ndi anthu ochepa bwanji akumvetsa izi lero! Kwa chikhalidwe chodziwika bwino chasintha chithunzi cha umuna weniweni. Chikazi chachikazi, ndi mphukira zake zonse, chachepetsa amuna kukhala mipando yokhayo m'nyumba; chikhalidwe ndi zosangalatsa zotchuka zasandutsa abambo kukhala nthabwala; ndipo zaumulungu zaufulu zasokoneza malingaliro a munthu monga udindo wawo wauzimu ndi mtsogoleri amene amatsata mapazi a Khristu, mwana wankhosa wansembe.
Kungopereka chitsanzo chimodzi chokha cha mphamvu yamphamvu ya abambo, yang'anani pakupita kutchalitchi. Kafukufuku amene anachitika ku Sweden mu 1994 anapeza kuti ngati bambo ndi mayi amapita kutchalitchi nthawi zonse, ana 33 pa 41 aliwonse amapita kutchalitchi nthawi zonse, ndipo ana XNUMX pa XNUMX aliwonse amapita kutchalitchi mosalekeza. Tsopano, ngati abambo ndi osakhazikika ndipo amayi amakhala okhazikika, 3 peresenti yokha ya ana pambuyo pake amakhala ozolowereka okha, pomwe ena 59% amakhala osakhazikika. Izi ndizodabwitsa:
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati abambo amakhala okhazikika koma mayi amakhala osachita zonse kapena osachita? Modabwitsa, kuchuluka kwa ana omwe amakhala pafupipafupi kumakwera kuchoka pa 33 peresenti kufika pa 38 peresenti ndi amayi osakhazikika ndipo mpaka 44% ndi amayi osachita, ngati kuti kukhulupirika pakudzipereka kwa abambo kumakula mofanana ndi kulekerera kwa amayi, mphwayi, kapena nkhanza . -Tiye Choonadi Chokhudza Amuna & Tchalitchi: Pakufunika Kwa Abambo Kuchita Tchalitchi ndi Robbie Low; kutengera kafukufuku: "Makhalidwe azikhalidwe komanso magulu azipembedzo ku Switzerland" olembedwa ndi Werner Haug ndi Phillipe Warner a Federal Statistical Office, Neuchatel; Voliyumu 2 ya Population Study, No. 31
Abambo amakhudza kwambiri zauzimu pa ana awo ndendende chifukwa cha udindo wawo wapadera m'dongosolo la chilengedwe…
UNSEMBE WA ATATE
Katekisimu amaphunzitsa kuti:
Nyumba Yachikhristu ndi malo omwe ana amalandila chilengezo choyamba cha chikhulupiriro. Pachifukwa ichi banjali moyenerera limatchedwa "mpingo wapakhomo," gulu lachisomo ndi pemphero, sukulu yamakhalidwe abwino a anthu ndi zachifundo zachikhristu. -Katekisma wa Mpingo wa Katolika, N. 1666
Chifukwa chake, munthu amatha kuganiziridwa wansembe kunyumba kwake. Monga St. Paul analemba kuti:
Pakuti mwamuna ndiye mutu wa mkazi, monganso Khristu ndiye mutu wa Eklesia, ali yekha Mpulumutsi wa thupilo. (Aef. 5:23)
Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Monga nkhani yanga ikuwonetsera pamwambapa, tikudziwa kuti Lemba ili lakhala likuwonedwa kwazaka zambiri. Vesi 24 likupitilira kunena kuti, "Monga mpingo umvera Khristu, koteronso akazi agonjere amuna awo m'zinthu zonse." Pakuti pamene amuna akukwaniritsa ntchito yawo ya chikhristu, akazi amakhala akugonjera kwa iye amene akutengapo mbali ndikuwatsogolera kwa Khristu.
Monga amuna ndi abambo, tidayitanidwa ku utsogoleri wapadera wauzimu. Akazi ndi amuna alidi osiyana — mwamalingaliro, mwakuthupi, ndi mwa dongosolo lauzimu. Ali zowonjezera. Ndipo ali ofanana nafe monga olowa nyumba limodzi a Khristu: [1]cf. Katekisimu wa Katolika, n. Zamgululi
Momwemonso, amuna inu khalani ndi akazi anu momvetsetsa, mukulemekeza akazi omwe ndi ofooka, popeza ndife olandira nawo mphatso ya moyo, kuti mapemphero anu asayimitsidwe. (1 Pet. 3: 7)
Koma kumbukirani mawu a Khristu kwa Paulo akuti "mphamvu imakhala yokwanira m'ufoko." [2]1 Cor 12: 9 Ndiye kuti, amuna ambiri amavomereza kuti mphamvu zawo, zawo thanthwe ndi akazi awo. Ndipo tsopano tikuwona chinsinsi chikufutukuka apa: Ukwati wopatulika ndi chizindikiro chaukwati wa Khristu ku Mpingo.
Ichi ndi chinsinsi chachikulu, koma ndimalankhula za Khristu ndi mpingo. (Aef 5:32)
Khristu adapereka moyo wake chifukwa cha Mkwatibwi Wake, koma Iye mphamvu Mpingo ndikumukweza kupita kumalo atsopano "posamba madzi ndi mawu." M'malo mwake, amatcha Tchalitchi ngati miyala ya maziko ndipo Peter amatchedwa "thanthwe" Mawu awa ndiwodabwitsa. Pakuti chimene Yesu akunena ndikuti Iye amafuna kuti Mpingo udziwombole naye; kugawana mu mphamvu Yake; kuti akhale "thupi la Khristu", thupi limodzi ndi thupi Lake.
… Awiriwo adzakhala thupi limodzi. (Aef. 5:31)
Cholinga cha Khristu ndichakuti kukonda, chikondi chosayerekezeka chowonetsedwa mwa kuwolowa manja kwa Mulungu komwe kumaposa chikondi chilichonse m'mbiri ya anthu. Ichi ndi chikondi chomwe amuna akuyitanidwa kwa akazi awo. Tidayitanidwa kusambitsa akazi athu ndi ana athu mu Mawu a Mulungu 
kuti tsiku lina adzaime pamaso pa Mulungu “opanda banga kapena khwinya.” Wina akhoza kunena kuti, monga Khristu, timapereka "makiyi aufumu" ku thanthwe lathu, kwa akazi athu, kuwathandiza kuti nawonso azisamalira ndi kusamalira nyumbayo m'malo oyera ndi athanzi. Tiyenera kuwapatsa mphamvu, ayi kupambana iwo.
Koma izi sizitanthauza kuti amuna ayenera kukhala amphutsi-mithunzi yaying'ono pakona omwe amalephera kukwaniritsa udindo uliwonse kwa akazi awo. Koma izi ndizomwe zachitika m'mabanja ambiri, makamaka kumadzulo. Udindo wamwamuna wawonda. Nthawi zambiri ndimomwe akazi amatsogolera mabanja awo kupemphera, omwe amatenga ana awo kupita nawo kutchalitchi, omwe amatumikira monga azipembedzo odabwitsa, komanso omwe amayendetsa parishiyo kotero kuti wansembe amangosainira zisankho zake. Ndipo maudindo onsewa azimayi mbanja ndi Mpingo ali ndi malo bola ngati sizitengera utsogoleri woperekedwa ndi Mulungu kwa anthu. Ndi chinthu chimodzi kuti mayi atengere ndikukweza ana ake mchikhulupiriro, chomwe ndichinthu chodabwitsa; Ndi china kuti iye achite izi popanda kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna wake, umboni, ndi mgwirizano chifukwa cha kunyalanyaza kwake kapena uchimo.
Udindo wa mwamunayo
Mu chizindikiro china champhamvu, okwatiranawo ndi chifanizo cha Utatu Woyera. Atate amakonda Mwana wake kotero kuti chikondi chawo chimabala munthu wachitatu, Mzimu Woyera. Momwemonso, mwamuna amakonda mkazi wake kwathunthu, ndipo mkazi amakonda mwamuna wake, kuti chikondi chawo chimabala munthu wina wachitatu: mwana. Mwamuna ndi mkazi, motero, amayitanidwa kuti akhale owonetsa Utatu Woyera kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso kwa ana awo m'mawu ndi machitidwe awo. Ana ndi akazi ayenera kuwona mwa abambo awo chinyezimiro cha Atate Akumwamba; ayenera kuwona mwa amayi awo chiwonetsero cha Mwana ndi Amayi Mpingo, womwe ndi thupi Lake. Mwanjira imeneyi, ana athe kulandira kudzera mwa makolo awo chisomo chochuluka cha Mzimu Woyera, monga momwe timalandirira chisomo cha sakramenti kudzera mu Unsembe Woyera ndi Mayi Church.
Banja lachikhristu ndi mgonero wa anthu, chizindikiro ndi chithunzi cha mgonero wa Atate ndi Mwana mu Mzimu Woyera. -Katekisimu wa Katolika, n. Zamgululi
Kodi abambo ndi abambo zimawoneka bwanji? Tsoka ilo lero, kulibe mtundu waubambo woyenera kuwunikidwa
. Amuna masiku ano, zikuwoneka, ndikungokhala kunyalanyaza koyenera, mowa, komanso masewera wamba pawailesi yakanema ndi chilakolako chochepa (kapena chochuluka) chomwe chimaponyedwa pamiyeso yabwino. Zomvetsa chisoni kuti mu Tchalitchi, utsogoleri wauzimu wasowa kwambiri paguwa pomwe atsogoleri achipembedzo amawopa kutsutsana ndi zomwe zikuchitika, kuwalimbikitsa ana awo auzimu kukhala oyera, ndi kulalikira Uthenga Wabwino wosasinthidwa, ndipo, khalani moyo mwa njira yomwe imakhazikitsa mphamvu Mwachitsanzo. Koma sizitanthauza kuti tilibe zitsanzo zoti titsatire. Yesu amakhalabe chitsanzo chathu chachikulu komanso changwiro cha umuna. Anali wofatsa, koma wolimba; wofatsa, koma wosanyengerera; olemekeza akazi, koma owona; ndipo ndi ana Ake auzimu, adapereka zonse. Pamene amasambitsa mapazi awo, Iye anati:
Chifukwa chake, ngati ine mbuye ndi mphunzitsi, ndasambitsa mapazi anu, muyenera kusambitsana mapazi. Ndakupatsani chitsanzo choti muzitsatira, kuti monga ndakuchitirani inu, inunso muzichita. (Yohane 13: 14-15)
Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani kwenikweni? Kuti ndiyankha ndikulemba kotsatira, chilichonse kuyambira pemphero la banja, kulanga, mwamakhalidwe. Chifukwa ngati ife amuna sitimayamba kutenga umutu wauzimu womwe ndi udindo wathu; ngati sitinyalanyaza kusamba akazi athu ndi ana athu mu Mawu; ngati chifukwa cha ulesi kapena mantha sititenga udindo ndi ulemu womwe tili nawo ngati amuna… ndiye kuti tchimo ili lomwe "likuwopseza munthu mu umunthu wake" lidzapitilira, ndipo "kutha kwa kukhala kwathu ana amuna ndi akazi" Wam'mwambamwamba adzapitilira, osati m'mabanja athu okha, komanso mmadera mwathu, ndikuyika tsogolo la dziko lapansi pachiwopsezo.
Chimene Mulungu akutiitanira ife lero sichinthu chaching'ono. Zidzatifuna kudzimana kwakukulu ngati tikufuna kukwaniritsa ntchito yathu ya chikhristu. Koma sitiyenera kuchita mantha, chifukwa mtsogoleri ndi kukwaniritsa chikhulupiriro chathu, Yesu - Munthu wa anthu onse - adzakhala thandizo lathu, wotitsogolera, ndi mphamvu zathu. Ndipo momwe Iye anaperekera moyo Wake, chomwechonso, Iye anautenganso iwo mu moyo wosatha…
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