ZINA Anzanga mwina adachitapo zachiwerewere, kapena ali nawo tsopano. Ndimawakonda nawonso (ngakhale sindingagwirizane mwamakhalidwe ndi zosankha zawo zina.) Pakuti aliyense wa iwo anapangidwanso mchifanizo cha Mulungu.
Koma chithunzichi chitha kuvulazidwa. M'malo mwake, imavulazidwa mwa tonsefe mosiyanasiyana komanso zotsatira zake. Popanda kusiyanasiyana, nkhani zomwe ndakhala ndikumva kwa zaka zambiri kuchokera kwa anzanga komanso kwa ena omwe akhala akugwira ntchito yachiwerewere zimakhala ndi ulusi wamba: chilonda chachikulu cha makolo. Nthawi zambiri, china chake chofunikira mu ubale ndi awo bambo walakwitsa. Amawasiya, sanapezeke, amamuzunza, kapena samangokhala pakhomo. Nthawi zina, izi zimaphatikizidwa ndi mayi wolamulira, kapena mayi wokhala ndi mavuto ake omwe monga mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena zina.
Ndakhala ndikuganiza kwazaka zambiri kuti chilonda cha makolo ndichimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zodziwitsa chidwi chofuna kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kafukufuku waposachedwa tsopano akuthandizira kwambiri izi.
Kafukufukuyu adagwiritsa ntchito zitsanzo za anthu aku Danes opitilira mamiliyoni awiri azaka zapakati pa 18 ndi 49. Denmark inali dziko loyamba kulembetsa "maukwati a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha", ndipo amadziwika chifukwa chololeza njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwakutero, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mdzikolo sakhala ndi manyazi. Nazi zina mwazopeza:
• Amuna amene amakwatirana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amakhala oti akuleredwa m'banja lomwe makolo awo amakhala osakhazikika, makamaka abambo awo omwe sapezeka kapena osadziwika kapena makolo osudzulidwa.
• Miyezo yaukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha idakwezedwa pakati pa azimayi omwe amwalira ndi umayi paunyamata, azimayi omwe amakhala ndi nthawi yochepa yokwatirana ndi makolo, komanso azimayi omwe amakhala nthawi yayitali atakhala limodzi ndi abambo.
• Amuna ndi akazi omwe ali ndi "abambo osadziwika" anali ndi mwayi wochepa wokwatirana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo kuposa anzawo.
• Amuna omwe anamwalira ndi makolo adakali ana kapena achinyamata anali ndi mabanja ocheperako kusiyana ndi anzawo omwe makolo awo anali amoyo patsiku lawo lobadwa la 18.
• Kutalika kwa nthawi yaukwati wa kholo, mwayi wakukwatirana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ukukulira.
• Amuna omwe makolo awo adasudzula asanakwanitse zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zakubadwa anali ndi mwayi wokwanira 6% wokwatiwa ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo kuposa anzawo ochokera m'mabanja a makolo.
Malangizo: “Maubwenzi Amabanja Achinyamata Amabanja Ogonana Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha: Kafukufuku Wadziko Lonse Wamayiko Awiri A Danes,”Wolemba Morten Frisch ndi Anders Hviid; Archives of Sexual Conduct, Oct 13, 2006. Kuti muwone zonse zomwe zapezedwa, pitani ku: http://www.narth.com/docs/influencing.html
MAFUNSO
Olemba kafukufukuyu anamaliza kuti, "Zilizonse zomwe zingapange zomwe munthu amasankha zogonana komanso kusankha m'banja, kafukufuku wathu wowerengera anthu akuwonetsa kuti kulumikizana ndi makolo ndikofunikira."
Izi zikufotokozera mwanjira ina chifukwa chake amuna ndi akazi ambiri omwe ali ndi zokopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amafuna machiritso atha kusiya "moyo wachiwerewere" ndikukhala moyo wabwinobwino wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kuchiritsa kwa bala la makolo walola kuti munthuyo adzichiritse zomwe ali mwa Khristu ndi Yemwe adawalenga kuti akhale. Komabe, kwa ena, njira yochiritsira ndiyotenga nthawi yayitali komanso yovuta, chifukwa chake Mpingo umatilimbikitsa kuti tilandire "amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" mwaulemu, mwachifundo, ndi chidwi ".
Ndipo, Mpingo umalimbikitsa chikondi chomwecho kwa aliyense amene akulimbana ndi zilakolako zomwe ndi zosemphana ndi malamulo amakhalidwe abwino a Mulungu. Lero kuli mliri wauchidakwa, chizolowezi choonera zolaula, ndi matenda ena osokoneza bongo omwe akuwononga banja. Mpingo sukusankha ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma ukufikira tonsefe, chifukwa tonse ndife ochimwa, tonse tili ndi ukapolo pang'ono. Ngati zili choncho, Mpingo wa Katolika wasonyeza okhazikika m'choonadi, osasintha kwazaka zambiri. Zowona sizingakhale zoona ngati zili zoona lero, koma zonama mawa.
Ndicho chimene chimapangitsa ena, a mwakhama choonadi.
Tchalitchi… chikufuna kupitilizabe kukweza mawu ake poteteza anthu, ngakhale pamene mfundo za mayiko ndi malingaliro ambiri aanthu asunthira kwina. Zowonadi, zimadzichotsera mphamvu pazokha osati kuchuluka kwa chilolezo zomwe zimadzutsa. —POPA BENEDICT XVI, Vatican, pa Marichi 20, 2006
