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kaDisemba 14, 2013
Isikhumbuzo sikaSt. John woMnqamlezo

Imibhalo yeLigugu Apha

THE Eyona nto inzima kwaye ibuhlungu nawuphi na umzali anokujongana nayo, ngaphandle kokuphulukana nomntwana wakhe, ngumntwana wakhe ukulahlekelwa lukholo lwabo. Ndithandazile namawakawaka abantu kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye esona sicelo siqhelekileyo, esona sixhobo siqhelekileyo seenyembezi kunye nokukhathazeka, sesabantwana abaye bazula zula. Ndijonge emehlweni abo bazali, kwaye ndiyabona ukuba uninzi lwabo ngcwele. Kwaye baziva bengenakuzinceda.

Imele ukuba yayiyile ndlela utata awayeziva ngayo kumzekeliso kaYesu wonyana wolahleko. Utata kweli bali wayeyindoda elungileyo, indoda engcwele. Siyayazi le nto, kungekuphela ngendlela amamkele ngayo unyana wakhe okreqileyo kwakhona, kodwa yinto yokuba unyana ekugqibeleni abuze ukuba kutheni emkile ekhaya, ezibeka ityala, hayi utata wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha njengabazali sinokwenza izinto ezininzi ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa inye into esingenakuyenza yile bhala ngaphezulu inkululeko yokuzikhethela yomntwana wethu.

Siphila kwixesha apho usapho, mhlawumbi ngaphandle kwaso nasiphi na esinye isizukulwana, sihlaselwa ngapha nangapha. Ngokukodwa ootata.

Ingxaki yokuba ngutata esiphila kuyo namhlanje yinto, mhlawumbi eyona ibalulekileyo, isoyikisa umntu eluntwini. Ukupheliswa kobutata nokuba ngumama kunxulunyaniswa nokupheliswa kobukho bethu njengoonyana neentombi. -Ukhadinali uJoseph Ratzinger (UPAPA BENEDICT XVI), Palermo, Matshi 15, 2000

Mhlawumbi ngomnye “umqondiso wamaxesha” obonisa indlela esikufutshane ngayoimini yeNkosi. " ^[1]cf. UFaustina, kunye nomhla weNkosi Kuba njengoko sisiva kufundo lokuqala lwanamhlanje, iNkosi izothumela uEliya ukuba "abuyisele iintliziyo zooyise kunyana babo" nto leyo ethetha ukuba, njengoko uKristu waprofetayo, bayakwahlukana. ^[2]cf. ULuka 12:53 Sisiphelo sento eyabhalwa ngumprofeti uMalaki:

Ngoku ke ndithumela kuni uEliya umprofeti, ingekafiki imini yeNkosi, loo mini inkulu yoyikekayo. Wobuyisela iintliziyo zooyise kunyana wabo, neentliziyo zabantwana kooyise, hleze ndize ndilichithe ilizwe ngokuliphanzisa. (Mal 3: 23-24)

Njengomzali, ndinokuchonga ndiziva ndingenakuzinceda ekukhuliseni oonyana neentombi kwihlabathi lamanyala apho wonke umntwana eneselfowuni, ibhokisi ye-X kunye nekhompyuter. Umtsalane "wobukhazikhazi besono" kula maxesha ethu awufani nasiphi na isizukulwana esasiphambi kwethu ngenxa ye-intanethi ekhanyisa i-byte emva kokubukela inkanuko yenyama, ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo, kunye nokungakholelwa kubukho bukaThixo kwizixhobo zethu, imihla ngemihla, esikufumanisa kunzima ukuzilawula. ngaphandle. Ngelixa kukho imiphefumlo emitsha emihle esiza ekuphakameni, ingakumbi kububingeleli, kodwa baninzi kakhulu kunelizwe elamkela “ukunyamezelana” njengemigaqo yalo emitsha (okt. “Ndiza kukunyamezela oko kulungileyo kuwe ngelixesha unyamezele oko kulungileyo kum. Asizukugweba. Masigonane… ”).

Singabazali njani abantwana bethu kweli xesha, ngakumbi xa bevukela okanye befuna ukushiya inkolo yabo?

Ndikhumbula ndivuma izono umbingeleli esithi kum, "Ukuba uThixo ukunike lo mntwana, uya kukunika ubabalo lokukhulisa." Ngokwenene yayililizwi lethemba elo. UPaul Paul wabhala wathi,

UThixo uthembekile, kwaye akakuyekeli uhendwe ngaphaya kwamandla akho. UThixo unako ukulenza lukhulu lonke ubabalo lwenu, ukuze ezintweni zonke, nisoloko ninako konke enikusweleyo, nibe nako ukuwanabela kuwo wonke umsebenzi olungileyo. (1 Kor. 10:13; 2 Kor. 9: 8)

Kwangulo mfundisi mnye wathi, "Izilingo zoloyiso, iminqamlezo yeyovuko." Ke uThixo usinika ubabalo esiludingayo lokukhulisa abantwana bethu, kwaye oko kubandakanya lubabalo kufuneka sibakhulule bahambe—kungena yakhe Izandla.

Uyise wolahleko wamndulula unyana wakhe naye. Khange amnyanzele ukuba ahlale. Khange alubethe walubetha ucango. Wayegcina isango langaphambili lothando olungathandabuzekiyo luvulekile. Kodwa “uthando alunyanzelisi indlela yalo, ”Utshilo uSt. ^[3]I-1 Cor 13: 5 Uthando luqubuda phambi kwenkululeko yomnye. Ke utata uhlala ejonge, elindile, kwaye ethandazela ukubuya komntwana wakhe. Yiyo yonke into esinokuyenza njengabazali xa senze konke esinako ukukwenza. Kwaye ukuba asiphumelelanga ukwenza konke esinako, singacela uxolo. Kuye kwafuneka ndixolise kubantwana bam amaxesha amaninzi xa, njengotata, bendingenguye umzekelo endifuna ukuba ngawo. Ndicela uxolo, kwaye ke zama ukubathanda ngakumbi, sikhumbula oko kwathethwa nguSt.

… Uthando lwenu makube lukhulu, kuba uthando lugubungela inkitha yezono. (1 Pet 4: 8)

Abazali bahlala becinga ngoSt Monica ngenxa yendlela anyamezele ngayo emthandazweni, okukhokelela ekuguqulweni konyana wakhe kwi-hedonism (USt Augustine ngoku nguGqirha weCawa). Kodwa ngaba sicinga ngala maxesha awanyamezela apho wayefanele ukuba wayeziva ngathi umntwana wakhe ulahlekile kwaye ulahlekile kwaye mhlawumbi wasilela? Ngawo loo maxesha apho okona kulungileyo kwakhe, eyona nto ayenzileyo yokuxolisa, ezona zibheno zakhe zingathandabuzekiyo? Nangona kunjalo, yeyiphi imbewu awayeyityala, yeyiphi ukukhula, nangona yayifihlakele phantsi komhlaba omnyama wesono kunye nemvukelo, awayeyinkcenkceshela? Kwaye ke, usifundisa ukuba sithandaze njengomdumisi namhlanje:

Yabona, Yehova wemikhosi, khawukhangele usemazulwini, ubone; Khathalela lo mdiliya, ukhusele oko kutyalwe sisandla sakho sasekunene…

Ngapha koko-kwaye kufuneka sithembele kwiNkosi koku - asiziboni ngokupheleleyo iindlela uThixo akhokelela kuzo imiphefumlo. Kodwa siyabona ukuba ukukhanyela kukaPetros kwaba bubungqina bokuxolelwa yiNkosi; Intshutshiso kaPawulos yaba bubungqina benceba yeNkosi; Ukuthanda kuka-Augustine ihlabathi kwaba bubungqina bokuba nomonde kweNkosi; kwaye uSt. John of the Cross "ubusuku obumnyama" baba bubungqina bothando olukhulu lweNkosi. Yiyeke ke iNkosi ibhale ubungqina bomntwana wakho, ngexesha laKhe, kwisandla sakhe. ^[4]cf. Ubungqina bakho

Inkosi mayibhale imbali yethu. —UPOPA UFRANCIS, Homily, Ngomhla we-17, 2013; Imithombo yeendaba edibeneyo

Kwaye ke bazali, Yiba njengoNowa. UThixo wawukhangela wonke umhlaba, akholiswa ngawo kuphela UNowa kuba 'wayeyindoda elilungisa, engenakusoleka.' ^[5]IGenesis 6: 8-9 Kodwa uThixo wayisindisa nosapho lukaNowa. Ukuba wena njengomzali uthobekile, uvuma kuThixo zonke iimpazamo zakho, kwaye uthembele kwinceba yakhe, nawe ke wenziwa amalungisa ngegazi likaKrestu. Kwaye ukuba uyazingisa elukholweni, ndiyakholelwa ukuba iNkosi iya kuthi, ngexesha layo eliyimfihlakalo, yehlise ithambeka lomkhombe nakubantwana bakho abalahlekileyo.

Yabathanda. Bathandazele. Shiya yonke into oyenzileyo ezandleni zikaThixo, ezilungileyo nezingalunganga.

… Kuba unyana uyamdelela uyise, intombi isukele phezulu kunina… Ke mna, ndiya kukhangela eNkosini; Ndiya kulindela kuThixo wokusindiswa kwam; uya kundiva uThixo wam. (Mika 7: 6-7)

Kulungile kangakanani kuthi ukuba sithandane, ngaphandle kwayo yonke into. Ewe, phezu kwayo yonke into! Inkuthazo ka-Saint Paul ijolise kuye ngamnye wethu: "Musa ukweyiswa bububi, boyise ububi ngokulungileyo" (Roma 12:21). Kwaye kwakhona: “Masingadinwa kukwenza okulungileyo” (Gal 6: 9). Sonke sinezinto esizithandayo nesingazithandiyo, kwaye mhlawumbi ngalo mzuzu sinomsindo nomntu. Ubuncinane masithi eNkosini: “Nkosi, ndinomsindo ngakulo mntu, nguloo mntu. Ndithandazela wena kunye naye ". Ukuthandazela umntu endicaphukisayo linyathelo elihle eliya phambili eluthandweni, kunye nesenzo sokushumayela. -IPOPE FRANCIS, U-Evangelii Gaudium, n. I-101

Kwaye khumbulani ukuba akakho umntu oxhalabileyo, osebenza kakhulu, obandakanyeka kakhulu ekusindisweni kwabantwana bakho kunoBawo waseZulwini, ekunye nawe, obukele kwaye alinde abantwana baKhe babuye ekhaya…

Siyazi ukuba zonke izinto zisebenzela ukulungelwa kwabo bamthandayo uThixo… unomonde kuni, engathandi ukuba kubhubhe namnye, kodwa bonke bafikelele enguqukweni. (Roma 8:28; 2 Pet. 3: 9)

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