Usuku 8: Amanxeba anzulu

WE ngoku sinqumla kwisiqingatha sendawo yokurhoxa kwethu. UThixo akakagqibi, mninzi umsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe. UGqirha oNgcwele uqalisa ukufikelela kwezona ndawo zinzulu zokwenzakala kwethu, kungekuko ukuza kusikhathaza nokusiphazamisa, kodwa ukuze asiphilise. Kunokuba buhlungu ukujongana nezi nkumbulo. Lo ngumzuzu we nya mezela; eli lixesha lokuhamba ngokholo nokungaboni, ukuthembela kwinkqubo uMoya oyiNgcwele ayiqalileyo entliziyweni yakho. Ume ecaleni kwakho uMama oSikelelweyo kunye nabantakwenu noodadewenu, abaNgcwele, bonke abathethelela wena. Basondele kuwe ngoku kunokuba babekho kobu bomi, ngenxa yokuba bamanyene ngokupheleleyo noBathathu Emnye oNgcwele ngonaphakade, ohlala ngaphakathi kuwe ngenxa yoBhaptizo lwakho.

Kanti, ungaziva ulilolo, nokuba ulahliwe njengoko uzama ukuphendula imibuzo okanye ukuva iNkosi ithetha nawe. Kodwa njengoko umdumisi esitsho, “Ndingahambela phi na ukumka emoyeni wakho? Ndingabalekela phi na ukumka ebusweni bakho?^[1]INdumiso 139: 7 UYesu wathembisa: “Mna ndinani, kude kube sekuphelisweni kwephakade eli.^[2]I-Matt 28: 20

Ngoko ke, sínelifu elingakanana nje elisingqongileyo lamangqina, masithi, siwukhwebule kuwo wonke umthwalo nesono esisinamatheleyo, sizingise ekulubalekeni ugqatso oluphambi kwethu, sithe ntsho kuYesu, inkokeli nomgqibelelisi wosindiso. ukholo. Ngenxa yovuyo olwalukho phambi kwakhe, wawunyamezela umnqamlezo, elidelile ihlazo lawo, waza wahlala ewongeni kwitrone kaThixo. (Hebhere 12″1-2)

Ngenxa yovuyo uThixo akugcinele lona, ​​kuyimfuneko ukuzisa ubugwenxa bethu kunye namanxeba emnqamlezweni. Ke ngoko, mema uMoya oyiNgcwele kwakhona ukuba eze kwaye akomeleze ngalo mzuzu, kwaye uzingise:

Yiza Moya oyiNgcwele kwaye ugcwalise intliziyo yam esengozini. Ndithembele ngothando lwakho kum. Ndithembele kubukho bakho kwaye ndincede kubuthathaka bam. Ndivula intliziyo yam kuWe. Ndinikela kuwe intlungu yam. Ndizinikela kuWe kuba andinako ukuzilungisa. Ndityhilele amanxeba am anzulu, ngakumbi abo basekhaya, ukuze kubekho uxolo noxolelwaniso. Buyisela uvuyo losindiso lwakho, uhlaziye umoya othe tye phakathi kwam. Yiza Moya oyiNgcwele, undihlambe kwaye undikhulule kumakhamandela angenampilo kwaye undikhulule njengesidalwa sakho esitsha.

Nkosi Yesu, ndiza phambi konyawo lomnqamlezo wakho kwaye ndidibanise amanxeba am kweyakho, kuba "ngamanxeba akho siphilisiwe." Ndiyabulela ngeNtliziyo yakho Engcwele ehlatyiweyo, ephuphuma ngoku luthando, inceba kunye nempiliso kum nosapho lwam. Ndivula intliziyo yam ukuze ndifumane le mpiliso. Yesu, ndikholose ngawe. 

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Lungisa Amehlo Am

Ndigxininise kuwe amehlo am, Ndigxilise amehlo am kuwe
Ndigxininise amehlo am kuwe (phinda)
Ndiyakuthanda

Ndikhokelele kwiNtliziyo yakho, ndifezekise ukholo lwam kuwe
Ndibonise iNdlela
Indlela eya Entliziyweni yakho, Ndibeka ukholo lwam kuwe
Ndithe ntsho kuWe

Ndigxininise kuwe amehlo am, Ndigxilise amehlo am kuwe
Ndigxininise kuWe amehlo am
Ndiyakuthanda

Ndikhokelele kwiNtliziyo yakho, ndifezekise ukholo lwam kuwe
Ndibonise iNdlela
Indlela eya Entliziyweni yakho, Ndibeka ukholo lwam kuwe
Ndithe ntsho kuWe

Ndigxininise kuwe amehlo am, Ndigxilise amehlo am kuwe
Ndigxininise amehlo am kuwe (phinda)
Ndiyakuthanda, ndiyakuthanda

—UMark Mallett, osuka Ndihlangule kum, 1999©

Usapho kunye Nawona Manxeba Ethu Anzulu

Kunge usapho yaye ngokukodwa abazali bethu sifunde ukunxulumana nabanye, ukukholosa, ukukhula kwintembelo, yaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukwakha ulwalamano lwethu noThixo.

Kodwa ukuba umanyano nabazali bethu luthintelekile okanye alukho, lunokuchaphazela kungekuphela nje umfanekiso wethu kodwa noBawo oseZulwini. Iyamangalisa ngokwenene - kwaye iyakhathaza - indlela abazali ababachaphazela ngayo abantwana babo, ngcono okanye okubi. Ulwalamano lukayise nomama nomntwana, emva koko, lwenzelwe ukuba lube yimbonakaliso ebonakalayo kaBathathu Emnye.

Kwanasesibelekweni, ukugatywa kunokubonwa ngomoya wethu wobusana. Ukuba umama uyala ubomi obukhula ngaphakathi kwakhe, kwaye ngakumbi ukuba oko kuyaqhubeka emva kokuzalwa; ukuba wayengakwazi ukubakho ngokwasengqondweni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni; ukuba akazange asabele kwizikhalo zethu zokulamba, uthando, okanye ukusithuthuzela xa sisiva intswela-bulungisa yabazalwana bethu, eli qhina liqhawukileyo linokushiya ubani engakhuselekanga, efuna uthando, ukwamkeleka nonqabiseko olufanele lufundwe kuqala kubomi bethu. oomama.

Ngokufanayo noyise ongekhoyo, okanye abazali ababini abasebenzayo. Oku kuphazanyiswa kobudlelwane bethu nabo kunokusishiya kamva ebomini namathandabuzo ngothando lukaThixo kunye nobukho bakhe kuthi kwaye kudale ukungakwazi ukunxulumana naye. Ngamanye amaxesha siphela sikhangela olo thando lungenamiqathango kwenye indawo. Kuyaphawuleka kuphononongo lwaseDenmark ukuba abo benza utyekelo lobufanasini bahlala bephuma kumakhaya anabazali abangazinzanga okanye abangekhoyo.^[3]Iziphumo zophononongo:

• Amadoda atshata abantu besini esifana nesabo kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhulele kusapho olunobudlelwane obungazinzanga babazali-ngakumbi, ootata abakhoyo okanye abangaziwayo okanye abazali abaqhawule umtshato.

Amanqanaba emitshato yabantu besini esinye aphakanyisiwe phakathi kwabasetyhini abafumana ukusweleka komama ngexesha lokufikisa, abasetyhini abanethuba elifutshane lomtshato wabazali, kunye nabasetyhini abanethuba elide lokuhlala kunye nonina.

• Amadoda nabasetyhini "abanootata abangaziwayo" babencinci amathuba okuba batshate nomntu wesini esahlukileyo kunontanga babo nootata abaziwayo.

• Amadoda afumana ukusweleka komzali ngexesha lobuntwana okanye kwinqanaba lokufikisa ayenexabiso eliphantsi kakhulu lomtshato wesini esahlukileyo kunontanga abanabazali ababephila kwiminyaka yabo yokuzalwa eyi-18. 

• Ngokufutshane ixesha lokutshata komzali, kokukhona amathuba ayephezulu kumtshato wobufanasini.

• Amadoda anabazali abaqhawule umtshato ngaphambi kokuba bafike kwiminyaka engama-6 yokuzalwa babengama-39% amathuba okutshata abantu besini esinye kunontanga abatshatileyo.

Isalathiso: “Ubuntwana boSapho obuDibeneyo beMitshato yabantu abathandanayo nabesini esinye: Isifundo seSizwe seQela lamaZwe amabini eziDanes,”NguMorten Frisch noAnders Hviid; Iingxelo zoLuntu, Okt 13, 2006. Ukujonga iziphumo ezigcweleyo, yiya ku: http://www.narth.com/docs/influencing.html

Kamva ebomini, ekubeni sisilele ukwenza amaqhina aphilileyo angokweemvakalelo ebuntwaneni bethu, sinokuzivalela, sivale iintliziyo zethu, sakhe udonga, size sithintele nabani na ukuba angene. Sinokuzenzela izifungo ezinjengokuthi “Andisayi kuphinda ndivumele nabani na ukuba angene kwakhona,” “Andisokuze ndizivumele ndibe sesichengeni, “Akukho mntu uya kuphinda andenzakalisa,” njalo njalo. Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo ezi ziya kusebenza nakuThixo. Okanye sinokuzama ukuthomalalisa izikhewu ezintliziyweni zethu okanye ukungakwazi kwethu ukuzimanya okanye ukuziva sinesidima ngokuzisebenzisa ngezinto eziphathekayo, utywala, iziyobisi, ukudibana okungento yanto, okanye ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngamanye amazwi, "ukukhangela uthando kuzo zonke iindawo ezingalunganga." Okanye siya kuzama ukufumana injongo kunye nentsingiselo ngokusebenzisa impumelelo, iwonga, impumelelo, ubutyebi, njl njl.

NguBawo

Kodwa uThixo uBawo usithanda njani?

UYehova unemfesane, unobabalo, uzeka kade umsindo, unenceba enkulu. Akayi kusoloko ehlab’ amadlala; ungahlali enomsindo ngonaphakade. Akasiphathi ngokweziphoso zethu… Kunjengokuba kude kwempumalanga entshonalanga, ukulukhwelelisa kwakhe kuthi ubugwenxa bethu; Uyakwazi yena into esiyiyo; ukhumbula ukuba siluthuli. (Thelekisa iNdumiso 103:8-14 )

Ngaba lo ngumfanekiso wakho kaThixo? Ukuba akunjalo, sisenokuba sikhathazwa “nenxeba likayise.”

Ukuba oobawo bebekude ngokweemvakalelo, bengenamfesane, okanye bachithe ixesha elincinane kunye nathi, ngoko ngokufuthi sinokukubonisa oku kuThixo, ngaloo ndlela sivakalelwa kukuba yonke into ixhomekeke kuthi ebomini. Okanye ukuba babefuna ngenkani yaye bengqwabalala, bekhawuleza ukucaphuka nokugxeka, bengalindelanga nto ingaphantsi kunemfezeko, ngoko sinokukhula sivakalelwa kukuba uThixo uYise akaxoleli naziphi na iimpazamo nobuthathaka, yaye ukulungele ukusiphatha ngokweziphoso zethu—uThixo. ukoyikwa kunokuthandwa. Sisenokuba ne-inferiority complex, ukungazithembi, soyike ukuthatha umngcipheko. Okanye ukuba akukho nto uyenzileyo eyakha yalunga ngokwaneleyo kubazali bakho, okanye baye babonakalisa ubabalo olungakumbi kumntakwenu, okanye bade bahlekisa okanye bahlekisa ngezipho nemigudu yakho, ngoko sinokukhula ngokunzulu singanqabisekanga, siziva simbi, singafunwa, yaye sizabalazela ukwenza oko. amaqhina amatsha kunye nobuhlobo.

Kwakhona, ezi ntlobo zamanxeba zinokuphuphuma zibe yimbonakalo kaThixo. ISakramente yoXolelwaniso, endaweni yokuba ibe sisiqalo esitsha, iba sisivalo sokukhulula isohlwayo esingcwele-de sibe sisona kwakhona. Kodwa loo nto yokucinga ayihambelani neNdumiso 103, akunjalo?

UThixo ngoyena Bawo ubalaseleyo. Ungutata ofezekileyo. Ukuthanda ngokungagungqiyo, njengoko unjalo.

Musa ukundilahla okanye ungandishiyi; Owu Thixo, uncedo lwam! Nokuba utata nonina bandishiyile, kodwa uNdikhoyo uya kundamkela. ( INdumiso 27:9-10 )

Ukusuka kwintlungu ukuya eMpilweni

Ndikhumbula kwenye irhamente ethile kwiminyaka eyadlulayo xa ndandithandaza nabantu ndithandazela impiliso, umfazi owayekwiminyaka yakhe engamashumi amathathu wasondela kum. Ebuhlungu ebusweni, wathi uyise wayemxhaphaze eseyintwazana encinci kwaye wayenomsindo omkhulu kwaye akazange akwazi ukumxolela. Ngoko nangoko, ndaba nomfanekiso engqondweni. Ndathi kuye, “Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wosana oluncinane lulele kukhuko. Bona ama-curls amancinci ezinweleni zakhe, amanqindi akhe amancinci njengoko elele ngoxolo. Yayingutata wakho ke lowo… kodwa ngenye imini, umntu othile wamkhathaza nolwa sana, waphinda waphinda kwaloo nto nakuwe. Ngaba unokumxolela?” Watsho entywizisa inyembezi, ndabe ndilila. Sawolana, yaye wakhulula amashumi eminyaka entlungu njengoko ndandimthandazela kwimithandazo yokuxolelwa.

Oku asikokuzibetha ngoyaba izigqibo ezenziwa ngabazali bethu okanye ukwenza ngathi abanaxanduva ngezigqibo zabo. Bazi. Kodwa njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, "Ukwenzakalisa abantu benzakalisa abantu." Njengabazali, sihlala singabazali ngendlela esikhuliswe ngayo. Enyanisweni, ukungasebenzi kakuhle kunokuba yinto yesizukulwana. UGqr. UStephen Rossetti wabhala:

Kuyinyani ukuba ubhaptizo luyamcoca umntu kwibala lesono sokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, ayicimi yonke imiphumo yayo. Umzekelo, ukubandezeleka nokufa kuhlala emhlabeni wethu ngenxa yesono sokuqala, ngaphandle kwamandla obhaptizo. Ezinye zifundisa ukuba asinakubekek’ ityala ngezono zezizukulwana ezidluleyo. Lena Yinyaniso. Kodwa imiphumo yezono zabo inokusichaphazela ibe iyasichaphazela. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba abazali bam bobabini bebengamakhoboka eziyobisi, andinatyala ngezono zabo. Kodwa imiphumo emibi yokukhulela kwintsapho ekhotyokiswe ziziyobisi ngokuqinisekileyo iya kundichaphazela. - "Idayari ye-Exorcist #233: Iziqalekiso zesizukulwana?", NgoMatshi 27, 2023; catholicexorcism.org

Nazi ke iindaba ezilungileyo: UYesu unokuphilisa zonke kula manxeba. Asingombandela wokufumana umntu obekek’ ityala ngeentsilelo zethu, njengabazali bethu, okanye nokuba lixhoba. Kukuqonda nje ukuba ukungahoywa, ukunqongophala kothando olungagungqiyo, ukuziva ungakhuselekanga, ukugxekwa, ukungaqatshelwa, njl.njl. kusenze buhlungu kunye nokukwazi kwethu ukukhula ngokwasemphefumlweni kunye nobudlelwane obunempilo. La ngamanxeba afuna ukunyangwa ukuba asikhange sijongane nawo. Zinokukuchaphazela ngoku malunga nomtshato wakho kunye nobomi bosapho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukuthanda kunye nobudlelwane neqabane lakho okanye abantwana, okanye wenze kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane obunempilo.

Kodwa sisenokuba sonzakalise abanye, kuquka abethu abantwana, amaqabane ethu njalo njalo. Apho sinakho, kusenokufuneka sicele uxolo.

Ukuba ngoko uwusondeza umnikelo wakho esibingelelweni, wathi ulapho wakhumbula ukuba umzalwana wakho unendawo ngakuwe, wushiye apho umnikelo wakho esibingelelweni, uye uxolelane nomzalwana wakho kuqala, wandule ke uwusondeze umnikelo wakho. ( Mateyu 5:21-23 )

Kusenokungasoloko kububulumko okanye kusenzeka ukucela uxolo komnye umntu, ngakumbi ukuba uye waphulukana nokunxibelelana okanye baye bafa. Mxelele nje uMoya oyiNgcwele ukuba uyazisola ngobubi obenzileyo kwaye unike ithuba loxolelwaniso ukuba kunokwenzeka, kwaye wenze imbuyekezo (isohlwayo) ngokuvuma izono.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kule Retreat yokuPhilisa kukuba uzise zonke la manxeba entliziyo yakho kukukhanya ukuze uYesu abahlambulule ngeGazi lakhe Eliligugu.

Ukuba sihamba ekukhanyeni, njengokuba yena esekukhanyeni, soba sinobudlelane omnye nomnye, lithi negazi loNyana wakhe, uYesu Kristu, lisihlambulule kuso sonke isono. ( 1 Yohane 5:7 )

UYesu uze “ukuzisa iindaba ezilungileyo kumahlwempu… ukuvakalisa inkululeko kubathinjwa
nokubuyiselwa kokubona kweemfama, ukubandulula abacinezelweyo bekhululekile… ukubanika isidanga esikhundleni sothuthu, ioli yemihlali endaweni yesijwili, ingubo yokwaleka yendumiso esikhundleni somoya otyhafileyo…” (Luka 4:18) 61:3). Uyakholwa kuYe? Uyayifuna lento?

Emva koko kwijenali yakho...

• Bhala phantsi iinkumbulo ezimnandi zobuntwana bakho, nokuba ziyintoni na. Enkosi kuThixo ngezi nkumbulo zixabisekileyo kunye namaxesha.
• Cela uMoya oyiNgcwele akutyhilele naziphi na iinkumbulo ezifuna ukuphiliswa. Zisa abazali bakho kunye nosapho lwakho lonke phambi koYesu, kwaye uxolele ngamnye kubo ngayo nayiphi na indlela abakwenze ngayo, bakuphoxa, okanye basilela ukukuthanda njengoko kufuneka.
• Cela uYesu akuxolele ngayo nayiphi na indlela ongabathandanga ngayo, ongabahloneli, okanye ongabakhonzanga ngayo abazali bakho nosapho lwakho ngendlela obufanele ukwenza ngayo. Cela iNkosi ibasikelele kwaye ibachukumise kwaye izise ukukhanya kunye nempiliso phakathi kwakho.
• Guquka kuzo naziphi na izibhambathiso ozenzileyo, ezinjengokuthi “andisoze ndivumele nabani na ukuba asondele ngokwaneleyo ukuba andenzakalise” okanye “Akukho mntu uya kundithanda” okanye “ndifuna ukufa” okanye “andisayi kuze ndiphile,” njl. Cela uMoya oyiNgcwele ukuba akhulule intliziyo yakho ekuthandeni, kwaye uthandwe.

Ekuvaleni, zibone umi phambi koMnqamlezo kaKristu ebethelelwe emnqamlezweni kunye nosapho lwakho lonke, kwaye ucele uYesu ukuba avumele inceba impompoze phezu kwelungu ngalinye, kwaye aphilise umthi wosapho lwakho njengoko uthandaza ngale ngoma…

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Kodwa iNceba kufuneka iqukuqele, kufuneka ndiyikhulule
Uthando lwakho kufuneka luhambe, kufuneka lube njalo

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Kwaye iNceba iya kuhamba, kufuneka ndiyikhulule
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