I AM the spiritual head of my wife and children. When I said, "I do," I entered into a Sacrament in which I promised to love and honor my wife until death. That I would raise the children God may give us according to the Faith. This is my role, it is my duty. It is the first matter upon which I will be judged at the end of my life, after whether or not I have loved the Lord my God with all my heart, soul, and strength.
But most men think their duty is to bring home the bacon. To make ends meet. To fix the front door. These things are perhaps the duty of the moment. But they are not the ultimate goal.1 A married man’s prime vocation is to lead His wife and children into the Kingdom by his leadership and example. For, as Jesus says:
All these things the pagans seek. Your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides. (Matt 6:30-33)
That is, men, God wants to father you. He wants to provide for your needs. He wants you to know that you are carved in the palm of His hand. And that all the struggles and temptations you are facing are not as powerful as His grace available to your soul…
…for the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. (1 John 4:4)
Cling to that word, brother. For the times we are living in call for men to be courageous, not fearful; obedient, not unfaithful; prayerful, not distracted. But do not be afraid or shrink back from this standard you are called to:
I have the strength for everything through him who empowers me. (Phil 4:13)
- cf. The Heart of God [↩]